Chris, this is an excellent post about what we write in the way we write. I definitely learned a lesson on that this past week — we have to put in more thought in the way we express ourselves in our blogs.

Thank you for a thought-provoking entry.

Chris, this is an excellent post about what we write in the way we write. I definitely learned a lesson on that this past week — we have to put in more thought in the way we express ourselves in our blogs.

Thank you for a thought-provoking entry.

I’ve moved quite a bit in my adult life, geographically and otherwise. I find myself basically in the same situations in terms of friendships, professional interactions, routines, etc. Sometimes that’s good, sometimes it’s not.

Here’s the conclusion I’ve come to: If something isn’t going well, it very well could be the situation or another person. But if the pattern has repeated itself over time and in different contexts, then it must be me.

In terms of blogging, it seems to be easier to control the message because we can edit ourselves. On the other hand, a writer might be more likely to reveal unintended messages because that person is completely unaware of them. If you don’t see them, you can’t edit them.

So thanks for the reminder to be aware. What messages am I intentionally sending? What messages am I unintentionally sending? Those are big questions.

I’ve moved quite a bit in my adult life, geographically and otherwise. I find myself basically in the same situations in terms of friendships, professional interactions, routines, etc. Sometimes that’s good, sometimes it’s not.

Here’s the conclusion I’ve come to: If something isn’t going well, it very well could be the situation or another person. But if the pattern has repeated itself over time and in different contexts, then it must be me.

In terms of blogging, it seems to be easier to control the message because we can edit ourselves. On the other hand, a writer might be more likely to reveal unintended messages because that person is completely unaware of them. If you don’t see them, you can’t edit them.

So thanks for the reminder to be aware. What messages am I intentionally sending? What messages am I unintentionally sending? Those are big questions.

@George – Taking this approach offline will definitely help with relationships, especially at work where people will not necessarily have the history that puts your message in context

@SpaceAgeSage – Martial arts helped me appear more confident, and helped build my confidence from the inside. As you might imagine, I was a pretty weedy nerd at school. I wish my instructors spent more time on those confidence building aspects to be honest rather than the constant knuckle press ups and barking orders

@Don – Ramble away, it’s good stuff And thanks, it’s nice to know when what I write gets people thinking. I was afraid this post would miss the mark!

@Matt – I often say life is a mirror, half the time what we rail against is our own reflection

@Edward – What you revealed was all good A number of my blogging coaching clients worry about what they should say, how much they should share. It almost always works out well. Having positive intentions is the most of it.

@Bob – I had the same thing with “blogging is hard work and you might not make much money at it” (check out Darren and I in our book how many times we say something along those lines!” – I think if you put it across in a positive as possible way then it is fine, it’s when it is just bashing it gets to people.

@Matthew – I have always been a people watcher, now I am even more of a people listener

@George – Taking this approach offline will definitely help with relationships, especially at work where people will not necessarily have the history that puts your message in context

@SpaceAgeSage – Martial arts helped me appear more confident, and helped build my confidence from the inside. As you might imagine, I was a pretty weedy nerd at school. I wish my instructors spent more time on those confidence building aspects to be honest rather than the constant knuckle press ups and barking orders

@Don – Ramble away, it’s good stuff And thanks, it’s nice to know when what I write gets people thinking. I was afraid this post would miss the mark!

@Matt – I often say life is a mirror, half the time what we rail against is our own reflection

@Edward – What you revealed was all good A number of my blogging coaching clients worry about what they should say, how much they should share. It almost always works out well. Having positive intentions is the most of it.

@Bob – I had the same thing with “blogging is hard work and you might not make much money at it” (check out Darren and I in our book how many times we say something along those lines!” – I think if you put it across in a positive as possible way then it is fine, it’s when it is just bashing it gets to people.

@Matthew – I have always been a people watcher, now I am even more of a people listener

So much of what I write tends to say “Freelancing is hard work and you aren’t going to make millions doing it, but it’s a good life.”

I think the unintended message that I continually struggle with trying to correct is “Freelancing sucks. Don’t do it. It’s too hard.” There’s so much positive talk out there about the joys of freelancing that I sometimes feel the need to balance it. In the process, I feel like the negative Nelly.

Great food for thought, Chris!

So much of what I write tends to say “Freelancing is hard work and you aren’t going to make millions doing it, but it’s a good life.”

I think the unintended message that I continually struggle with trying to correct is “Freelancing sucks. Don’t do it. It’s too hard.” There’s so much positive talk out there about the joys of freelancing that I sometimes feel the need to balance it. In the process, I feel like the negative Nelly.

Great food for thought, Chris!

This is one reason I never write when I’m upset or mad, because I know those feeling will shine through somehow. Usually, not what I want posted to the Internet for all eternity.

Oh no… what did I just reveal about myself?

This is one reason I never write when I’m upset or mad, because I know those feeling will shine through somehow. Usually, not what I want posted to the Internet for all eternity.

Oh no… what did I just reveal about myself?

I think what you have stated is ‘RIGHT ON THE BUTTON!!”

I believe everything we do–have—become all originates in the MIND. All that I am today & have created in my life up to this point in time is in essence an ‘effect’ of what my brain vibrations have put out into the Universe.

I believe a Successful person FIRST has a Successful thought & conversely a Person who has lived a life of Failure & hopelessness has ‘attracted’ that to themselves so to speak in some sense(not to say we never fail).

That is why I believe it is SO VERY IMPORTANT to rid ourselves of the ‘Stinkin’ Thinkin’ & reprogam our minds with POSITIVE….What you put into your being(brain, Subconscious, Heart) can not help but COME OUT.

“As a man THINKETH so IS HE!”

Thanks for the thought Inspiring post this morning!

The Great Matt Geib

I think what you have stated is ‘RIGHT ON THE BUTTON!!”

I believe everything we do–have—become all originates in the MIND. All that I am today & have created in my life up to this point in time is in essence an ‘effect’ of what my brain vibrations have put out into the Universe.

I believe a Successful person FIRST has a Successful thought & conversely a Person who has lived a life of Failure & hopelessness has ‘attracted’ that to themselves so to speak in some sense(not to say we never fail).

That is why I believe it is SO VERY IMPORTANT to rid ourselves of the ‘Stinkin’ Thinkin’ & reprogam our minds with POSITIVE….What you put into your being(brain, Subconscious, Heart) can not help but COME OUT.

“As a man THINKETH so IS HE!”

Thanks for the thought Inspiring post this morning!

The Great Matt Geib