Bottom line, we both grew from the experience, learned some new things, and the discussion inspired me to revamp my blog for the better.

Sometimes things that first appear negative, may actually be positive. It’s just the way you approach it.

Bottom line, we both grew from the experience, learned some new things, and the discussion inspired me to revamp my blog for the better.

Sometimes things that first appear negative, may actually be positive. It’s just the way you approach it.

Rajesh Shakya
Helping technopreneurs to excel and lead their life!

Rajesh Shakya
Helping technopreneurs to excel and lead their life!

Good advice … online and off. ‘Not trying to change people’ is probably the hardest one to learn, and the one that applies to so many situations.

Good advice … online and off. ‘Not trying to change people’ is probably the hardest one to learn, and the one that applies to so many situations.

As a spiritual blogger, I come from the perspective that we each create our own (perception of) reality based on our beliefs, likes, dislikes, desires aversions etc…

This commenter was absolutely correct in his statement – in his reality.

I read his comment, then had to leave to teach a yoga class. I watched my mind rant and rave during the drive… so glad I wasn’t sitting at the desk writing it out in response.

Later, when I came back, another commenter has said the exact opposite based on the same material.

Perfect illustration of the underlying subjective nature of reality. One article, two responses. Both valid and correct.

Arguing one way or the other on my part is only seeking to establish that my way is the right way. Which it’s not. It’s the right way for me, ‘cos I find it works. You can take it or leave it.

And I take your way on this Chris – your description of how to deal with negative comments it right on.

Big smiles,
KL

As a spiritual blogger, I come from the perspective that we each create our own (perception of) reality based on our beliefs, likes, dislikes, desires aversions etc…

This commenter was absolutely correct in his statement – in his reality.

I read his comment, then had to leave to teach a yoga class. I watched my mind rant and rave during the drive… so glad I wasn’t sitting at the desk writing it out in response.

Later, when I came back, another commenter has said the exact opposite based on the same material.

Perfect illustration of the underlying subjective nature of reality. One article, two responses. Both valid and correct.

Arguing one way or the other on my part is only seeking to establish that my way is the right way. Which it’s not. It’s the right way for me, ‘cos I find it works. You can take it or leave it.

And I take your way on this Chris – your description of how to deal with negative comments it right on.

Big smiles,
KL

The minute you start arguing based on who rather than what are you lost whatever the dispute is about.

Mixing the the two is the only thing that is worse. Just think about the last time you used a sentence like “you said this or that”. Firstly, they may not even have said it even if you thought you heard it, they may have said it, but meant something else by it or at least are you trying to tie the person to the position. You are hence either debating on the wrong grounds or starting to debate the person rather than the position.

This is actually a great topic, which I may take up on my own blog if you don’t mind? And you don’t mind do you Chris!

The minute you start arguing based on who rather than what are you lost whatever the dispute is about.

Mixing the the two is the only thing that is worse. Just think about the last time you used a sentence like “you said this or that”. Firstly, they may not even have said it even if you thought you heard it, they may have said it, but meant something else by it or at least are you trying to tie the person to the position. You are hence either debating on the wrong grounds or starting to debate the person rather than the position.

This is actually a great topic, which I may take up on my own blog if you don’t mind? And you don’t mind do you Chris!

Great article.

I moderate all my comments on my site, the only ones that don’t get published are ones with swearing or spam, the rest all get included, whether they agree with me or not.

Great article.

I moderate all my comments on my site, the only ones that don’t get published are ones with swearing or spam, the rest all get included, whether they agree with me or not.