This whole “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine” behavior has never sat well with me. To me, if it’s not genuine, it’s just not right.

I don’t mind a casual request once in a while from others and if I think it’s worthy, I’ll Digg or SU it.

Frankly have never had the guts to outright ask others. Perhaps after I’ve been in the community longer and built up friendships AND have a post I really think is worthy, then I would ask.

Until then, I’m still learning and getting aquainted.

This whole “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine” behavior has never sat well with me. To me, if it’s not genuine, it’s just not right.

I don’t mind a casual request once in a while from others and if I think it’s worthy, I’ll Digg or SU it.

Frankly have never had the guts to outright ask others. Perhaps after I’ve been in the community longer and built up friendships AND have a post I really think is worthy, then I would ask.

Until then, I’m still learning and getting aquainted.

Here’s a quote that I just came across, I think it is relevant:

“As you perform your task, you can give or you can take. If you choose to take, your options will vanish. If you choose to give, the number of options available to you will be infinite.” Michael Katz, http://www.gemisphere.com

I would add, “If you forget to recieve, you become the broken link in the chain of abundance, joy, creativity, and options for others.”

Thank you all!

Here’s a quote that I just came across, I think it is relevant:

“As you perform your task, you can give or you can take. If you choose to take, your options will vanish. If you choose to give, the number of options available to you will be infinite.” Michael Katz, http://www.gemisphere.com

I would add, “If you forget to recieve, you become the broken link in the chain of abundance, joy, creativity, and options for others.”

Thank you all!

I try to play fair when it comes to the communities I am part of. I link to posts I like, stumble, mixx, tweet about what seems interesting and don’t really expect something in return, other than people’s opinion:)

I do receive tons of stories from SU and Mixx and follower notices from twitter, but I like that most of them come with an option. Like it, give it thumbs up, don’t like it, that’s about it. I try to work on the same principle whenever I share something with social media friends.

And I’ve also had this pretty good strategy up to now: take the time to know the people you befriend: read their posts, submissions and comments and see if there really is a connection there. This helps filter all the content I then receive.

Yes, I feel I need to return favors at times, but it’s generally because people are sometimes extremely nice and I want to give back part of what I’ve been given. But I don’t think it’s a powerful enough feeling to make any of us forget what we believe in or what we stand for.

I try to play fair when it comes to the communities I am part of. I link to posts I like, stumble, mixx, tweet about what seems interesting and don’t really expect something in return, other than people’s opinion:)

I do receive tons of stories from SU and Mixx and follower notices from twitter, but I like that most of them come with an option. Like it, give it thumbs up, don’t like it, that’s about it. I try to work on the same principle whenever I share something with social media friends.

And I’ve also had this pretty good strategy up to now: take the time to know the people you befriend: read their posts, submissions and comments and see if there really is a connection there. This helps filter all the content I then receive.

Yes, I feel I need to return favors at times, but it’s generally because people are sometimes extremely nice and I want to give back part of what I’ve been given. But I don’t think it’s a powerful enough feeling to make any of us forget what we believe in or what we stand for.

If you have a good thing and write well, folks will find it and use it and sometimes give you some link lovin’. If you deserve it, you could earn it.

If you have a good thing and write well, folks will find it and use it and sometimes give you some link lovin’. If you deserve it, you could earn it.

However, there’s also a line that needs not crossing. I’m talking about manipulations; some are more cleared and upfront, while others are more laid back, shadowed, depending on how good the manipulator is. They’ll do you a set of favors, not for the purpose of building a relationship with you or out of good heart, but rather with the select purpose of getting something out of it. A PURE materialistic desire.

Again, awesome post!

However, there’s also a line that needs not crossing. I’m talking about manipulations; some are more cleared and upfront, while others are more laid back, shadowed, depending on how good the manipulator is. They’ll do you a set of favors, not for the purpose of building a relationship with you or out of good heart, but rather with the select purpose of getting something out of it. A PURE materialistic desire.

Again, awesome post!

This whole Web 2.0 thing (are we still calling it that?) seems to be built on reciprocation. It’s almost the NEW ‘Community Service’, being part of a community (blogging, e-commerce, social networking, or whatever your little corner of the web is) & serving that community through what means you can muster.

Perhaps there should be a blog about bloggers who don’t play fair…a public outing of their blog

It’s what helps keep sites like Ebay (mostly) honest.

This whole Web 2.0 thing (are we still calling it that?) seems to be built on reciprocation. It’s almost the NEW ‘Community Service’, being part of a community (blogging, e-commerce, social networking, or whatever your little corner of the web is) & serving that community through what means you can muster.

Perhaps there should be a blog about bloggers who don’t play fair…a public outing of their blog

It’s what helps keep sites like Ebay (mostly) honest.

I can understand the dilemma though. Some are more deserving than others. I guess I try to focus on being the person I feel it’s best for me to be and trust that the “universe” will straighten the rest out.

Not that if someone goes out of their way to be helpful I don’t notice and keep my eyes open for opportunities to show my appreciation.

I can understand the dilemma though. Some are more deserving than others. I guess I try to focus on being the person I feel it’s best for me to be and trust that the “universe” will straighten the rest out.

Not that if someone goes out of their way to be helpful I don’t notice and keep my eyes open for opportunities to show my appreciation.