Comments on: Do you dare put down the mask? http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/ Build your business by sharing what you know Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:38:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: J.Millican http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-13017 J.Millican Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:16:54 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-13017 Great article Chris, I just found your blog from a list of top 50 blogs to watch and it was right. My morning has been spent reading your blogs and the quality post from your audience. Regarding Do You Dare put Down the Mask, I couldn't agree more. Nobody is perfect so why try to create a perfect online image. As the most important lessons in life are learned from mistakes, why not share those with others? In doing, hopefully we pass on a bit of knowledge and with it, a bit of our real self. Great article Chris,

I just found your blog from a list of top 50 blogs to watch and it was right. My morning has been spent reading your blogs and the quality post from your audience.

Regarding Do You Dare put Down the Mask, I couldn’t agree more. Nobody is perfect so why try to create a perfect online image. As the most important lessons in life are learned from mistakes, why not share those with others? In doing, hopefully we pass on a bit of knowledge and with it, a bit of our real self.

]]> By: J.Millican http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21876 J.Millican Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:16:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21876 Great article Chris, I just found your blog from a list of top 50 blogs to watch and it was right. My morning has been spent reading your blogs and the quality post from your audience. Regarding Do You Dare put Down the Mask, I couldn't agree more. Nobody is perfect so why try to create a perfect online image. As the most important lessons in life are learned from mistakes, why not share those with others? In doing, hopefully we pass on a bit of knowledge and with it, a bit of our real self. Great article Chris,

I just found your blog from a list of top 50 blogs to watch and it was right. My morning has been spent reading your blogs and the quality post from your audience.

Regarding Do You Dare put Down the Mask, I couldn’t agree more. Nobody is perfect so why try to create a perfect online image. As the most important lessons in life are learned from mistakes, why not share those with others? In doing, hopefully we pass on a bit of knowledge and with it, a bit of our real self.

]]> By: Riley S. http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-13013 Riley S. Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:31:43 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-13013 Very interesting topic. I've always been surprised at how cavalier younger generations are about their personal information online. And in the business world, it's hard to strike the perfect balance between staying private, yet promoting your business or employer with conviction. I think some apprehension comes from fear of the unknown... each piece of data you put online can be aggregated to form a profile of you, your family and your life. It's a fine line I still don't have an answer to. Very interesting topic. I’ve always been surprised at how cavalier younger generations are about their personal information online. And in the business world, it’s hard to strike the perfect balance between staying private, yet promoting your business or employer with conviction. I think some apprehension comes from fear of the unknown… each piece of data you put online can be aggregated to form a profile of you, your family and your life. It’s a fine line I still don’t have an answer to.

]]> By: Riley S. http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21875 Riley S. Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:31:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21875 Very interesting topic. I've always been surprised at how cavalier younger generations are about their personal information online. And in the business world, it's hard to strike the perfect balance between staying private, yet promoting your business or employer with conviction. I think some apprehension comes from fear of the unknown... each piece of data you put online can be aggregated to form a profile of you, your family and your life. It's a fine line I still don't have an answer to. Very interesting topic. I’ve always been surprised at how cavalier younger generations are about their personal information online. And in the business world, it’s hard to strike the perfect balance between staying private, yet promoting your business or employer with conviction. I think some apprehension comes from fear of the unknown… each piece of data you put online can be aggregated to form a profile of you, your family and your life. It’s a fine line I still don’t have an answer to.

]]> By: Cori Padgett http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-13004 Cori Padgett Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:37:09 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-13004 Was just discussing this a bit in a blog post I just put up today, but you go much more in-depth into the whole topic. Great post Chris, thanks so much for sharing. I completely agree that authenticity is important in everything you do, whether daily living, business related, or within social media. What's the point of being YOU if you're not well... being YOU? None in my book, and it's a sad state of affairs when you dislike yourself so much you feel you have to hide who you really are. Thanks again for the post. :) Warm regards, C Was just discussing this a bit in a blog post I just put up today, but you go much more in-depth into the whole topic. Great post Chris, thanks so much for sharing.

I completely agree that authenticity is important in everything you do, whether daily living, business related, or within social media. What’s the point of being YOU if you’re not well… being YOU? None in my book, and it’s a sad state of affairs when you dislike yourself so much you feel you have to hide who you really are. Thanks again for the post. :)

Warm regards,
C

]]> By: Cori Padgett http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21874 Cori Padgett Thu, 18 Feb 2010 17:37:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21874 Was just discussing this a bit in a blog post I just put up today, but you go much more in-depth into the whole topic. Great post Chris, thanks so much for sharing. I completely agree that authenticity is important in everything you do, whether daily living, business related, or within social media. What's the point of being YOU if you're not well... being YOU? None in my book, and it's a sad state of affairs when you dislike yourself so much you feel you have to hide who you really are. Thanks again for the post. :) Warm regards, C Was just discussing this a bit in a blog post I just put up today, but you go much more in-depth into the whole topic. Great post Chris, thanks so much for sharing.

I completely agree that authenticity is important in everything you do, whether daily living, business related, or within social media. What’s the point of being YOU if you’re not well… being YOU? None in my book, and it’s a sad state of affairs when you dislike yourself so much you feel you have to hide who you really are. Thanks again for the post. :)

Warm regards,
C

]]> By: Michele Price http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-13003 Michele Price Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:27:33 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-13003 Chris this is what I love about you from the very first time we chatted on twitter to our interview to NOW, you are straight forward with GRACE. You humble demeanor is refreshing and we always know where you are coming from-no surprises with you. Thanks for giving the world a view of how "what we share" does not have to be "secrets". I have enough healing to do on my own with all the things we inherit from our families which I gladly accept as part of my journey here on planet earth. My point being everyone has their own "stuff" we do not have to dump each other's "stuff" on each other or out there for it to be validated. I much rather validate the light in each other and grow that for the world. p.s. what about that silly game we all played I forget the name where we hit a ball from one side of the screen to the other, giggle-now look at games whew. Chris this is what I love about you from the very first time we chatted on twitter to our interview to NOW, you are straight forward with GRACE. You humble demeanor is refreshing and we always know where you are coming from-no surprises with you.

Thanks for giving the world a view of how “what we share” does not have to be “secrets”. I have enough healing to do on my own with all the things we inherit from our families which I gladly accept as part of my journey here on planet earth. My point being everyone has their own “stuff” we do not have to dump each other’s “stuff” on each other or out there for it to be validated.

I much rather validate the light in each other and grow that for the world.

p.s. what about that silly game we all played I forget the name where we hit a ball from one side of the screen to the other, giggle-now look at games whew.

]]> By: Michele Price http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21873 Michele Price Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:27:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21873 Chris this is what I love about you from the very first time we chatted on twitter to our interview to NOW, you are straight forward with GRACE. You humble demeanor is refreshing and we always know where you are coming from-no surprises with you. Thanks for giving the world a view of how "what we share" does not have to be "secrets". I have enough healing to do on my own with all the things we inherit from our families which I gladly accept as part of my journey here on planet earth. My point being everyone has their own "stuff" we do not have to dump each other's "stuff" on each other or out there for it to be validated. I much rather validate the light in each other and grow that for the world. p.s. what about that silly game we all played I forget the name where we hit a ball from one side of the screen to the other, giggle-now look at games whew. Chris this is what I love about you from the very first time we chatted on twitter to our interview to NOW, you are straight forward with GRACE. You humble demeanor is refreshing and we always know where you are coming from-no surprises with you.

Thanks for giving the world a view of how “what we share” does not have to be “secrets”. I have enough healing to do on my own with all the things we inherit from our families which I gladly accept as part of my journey here on planet earth. My point being everyone has their own “stuff” we do not have to dump each other’s “stuff” on each other or out there for it to be validated.

I much rather validate the light in each other and grow that for the world.

p.s. what about that silly game we all played I forget the name where we hit a ball from one side of the screen to the other, giggle-now look at games whew.

]]> By: Mrs. Micah http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-13000 Mrs. Micah Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:23:24 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-13000 I've found that being me is key to survival online. I'm not "out" all the way about my name because I write about finances and our finances and we want to keep that private in a limited way. Still, by being honest about things like location, interests, points of view, etc, I've made a lot of connections. In a few years I think I want to move on to a different approach to blogging/twitter/etc and think I'll probably use my first name. As another commenter said, for women there's a little more of a risk. Most guys on the web aren't dangerous but dangerous guys do know how to use the computer too. I’ve found that being me is key to survival online. I’m not “out” all the way about my name because I write about finances and our finances and we want to keep that private in a limited way. Still, by being honest about things like location, interests, points of view, etc, I’ve made a lot of connections.

In a few years I think I want to move on to a different approach to blogging/twitter/etc and think I’ll probably use my first name. As another commenter said, for women there’s a little more of a risk. Most guys on the web aren’t dangerous but dangerous guys do know how to use the computer too.

]]> By: Mrs. Micah http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21872 Mrs. Micah Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:23:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21872 I've found that being me is key to survival online. I'm not "out" all the way about my name because I write about finances and our finances and we want to keep that private in a limited way. Still, by being honest about things like location, interests, points of view, etc, I've made a lot of connections. In a few years I think I want to move on to a different approach to blogging/twitter/etc and think I'll probably use my first name. As another commenter said, for women there's a little more of a risk. Most guys on the web aren't dangerous but dangerous guys do know how to use the computer too. I’ve found that being me is key to survival online. I’m not “out” all the way about my name because I write about finances and our finances and we want to keep that private in a limited way. Still, by being honest about things like location, interests, points of view, etc, I’ve made a lot of connections.

In a few years I think I want to move on to a different approach to blogging/twitter/etc and think I’ll probably use my first name. As another commenter said, for women there’s a little more of a risk. Most guys on the web aren’t dangerous but dangerous guys do know how to use the computer too.

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pens http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-12999 James Chartrand - Men with Pens Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:28:38 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-12999 Late to the party, but never coming emptyhanded. This is a good post, Chris, and you raise some important points. But I do want to say something because it seems the post implies that a pseudonym is a mask. In many cases, a pseudonym is quite the opposite. You can be exactly who you want to be - and people see you exactly as you want to be seen. After I revealed my gender, I had many, many people saying, "Wow, this must be a huge relief for you!!" *blink blink* No? Why on earth would you think that? Now, instead of talking to me about business, people talk to me about kids and housecleaning. Now, instead of being able to virtually swagger, people expect me to be demure and soft. Now, instead of being called dude and buddy, I'm being called lady and mademoiselle. In hindsight, my pseudonym was not a mask. It was the authentic me. (And I'm rather glad I kept it!) Late to the party, but never coming emptyhanded.

This is a good post, Chris, and you raise some important points. But I do want to say something because it seems the post implies that a pseudonym is a mask.

In many cases, a pseudonym is quite the opposite. You can be exactly who you want to be – and people see you exactly as you want to be seen.

After I revealed my gender, I had many, many people saying, “Wow, this must be a huge relief for you!!”

*blink blink* No? Why on earth would you think that? Now, instead of talking to me about business, people talk to me about kids and housecleaning. Now, instead of being able to virtually swagger, people expect me to be demure and soft. Now, instead of being called dude and buddy, I’m being called lady and mademoiselle.

In hindsight, my pseudonym was not a mask. It was the authentic me. (And I’m rather glad I kept it!)

]]> By: James Chartrand - Men with Pen http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21871 James Chartrand - Men with Pen Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:28:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21871 Late to the party, but never coming emptyhanded. This is a good post, Chris, and you raise some important points. But I do want to say something because it seems the post implies that a pseudonym is a mask. In many cases, a pseudonym is quite the opposite. You can be exactly who you want to be - and people see you exactly as you want to be seen. After I revealed my gender, I had many, many people saying, "Wow, this must be a huge relief for you!!" *blink blink* No? Why on earth would you think that? Now, instead of talking to me about business, people talk to me about kids and housecleaning. Now, instead of being able to virtually swagger, people expect me to be demure and soft. Now, instead of being called dude and buddy, I'm being called lady and mademoiselle. In hindsight, my pseudonym was not a mask. It was the authentic me. (And I'm rather glad I kept it!) Late to the party, but never coming emptyhanded.

This is a good post, Chris, and you raise some important points. But I do want to say something because it seems the post implies that a pseudonym is a mask.

In many cases, a pseudonym is quite the opposite. You can be exactly who you want to be – and people see you exactly as you want to be seen.

After I revealed my gender, I had many, many people saying, “Wow, this must be a huge relief for you!!”

*blink blink* No? Why on earth would you think that? Now, instead of talking to me about business, people talk to me about kids and housecleaning. Now, instead of being able to virtually swagger, people expect me to be demure and soft. Now, instead of being called dude and buddy, I’m being called lady and mademoiselle.

In hindsight, my pseudonym was not a mask. It was the authentic me. (And I’m rather glad I kept it!)

]]> By: Philip Marshall http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-12997 Philip Marshall Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:42:41 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-12997 Chris you're right on point. Our staff is a strange blend of geeks with a smattering of the creative artsy types that seem to keep us on an even keel. We release both relative, related and our relatives content while retaining modesty where applicable. Cheers and keep writing! Chris you’re right on point. Our staff is a strange blend of geeks with a smattering of the creative artsy types that seem to keep us on an even keel. We release both relative, related and our relatives content while retaining modesty where applicable.
Cheers and keep writing!

]]> By: Philip Marshall http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21870 Philip Marshall Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:42:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21870 Chris you're right on point. Our staff is a strange blend of geeks with a smattering of the creative artsy types that seem to keep us on an even keel. We release both relative, related and our relatives content while retaining modesty where applicable. Cheers and keep writing! Chris you’re right on point. Our staff is a strange blend of geeks with a smattering of the creative artsy types that seem to keep us on an even keel. We release both relative, related and our relatives content while retaining modesty where applicable.
Cheers and keep writing!

]]> By: George185 http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-12996 George185 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:44:50 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-12996 I used to use my real name when I would post work or comments online until my wife told me that she felt uncomfortable. I'm indifferent when it comes to using my real name or a pseudonym, and I don't want to cause any unnecessary worry, so I started using several pseudonyms when working online. Obviously, with a name like George185, I'm not trying to look cool. I used to use my real name when I would post work or comments online until my wife told me that she felt uncomfortable. I’m indifferent when it comes to using my real name or a pseudonym, and I don’t want to cause any unnecessary worry, so I started using several pseudonyms when working online. Obviously, with a name like George185, I’m not trying to look cool.

]]> By: George185 http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21869 George185 Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:44:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21869 I used to use my real name when I would post work or comments online until my wife told me that she felt uncomfortable. I'm indifferent when it comes to using my real name or a pseudonym, and I don't want to cause any unnecessary worry, so I started using several pseudonyms when working online. Obviously, with a name like George185, I'm not trying to look cool. I used to use my real name when I would post work or comments online until my wife told me that she felt uncomfortable. I’m indifferent when it comes to using my real name or a pseudonym, and I don’t want to cause any unnecessary worry, so I started using several pseudonyms when working online. Obviously, with a name like George185, I’m not trying to look cool.

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-12995 Chris Garrett Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:50:02 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-12995 @Sean - Yup, your family needs to feel safe in what you are sharing, but also not be the cause of shame/embarassment. I was watching a comedian this weekend tell how he used to do a certain act about his divorce, without realising how awkward it was for his eldest son who had to put up with the playground gossip his "innocent jokes" had caused. He was basically giving his sons bullies ammunition without realising it. @Sean – Yup, your family needs to feel safe in what you are sharing, but also not be the cause of shame/embarassment. I was watching a comedian this weekend tell how he used to do a certain act about his divorce, without realising how awkward it was for his eldest son who had to put up with the playground gossip his “innocent jokes” had caused. He was basically giving his sons bullies ammunition without realising it.

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21868 Chris Garrett Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:50:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21868 @Sean - Yup, your family needs to feel safe in what you are sharing, but also not be the cause of shame/embarassment. I was watching a comedian this weekend tell how he used to do a certain act about his divorce, without realising how awkward it was for his eldest son who had to put up with the playground gossip his "innocent jokes" had caused. He was basically giving his sons bullies ammunition without realising it. @Sean – Yup, your family needs to feel safe in what you are sharing, but also not be the cause of shame/embarassment. I was watching a comedian this weekend tell how he used to do a certain act about his divorce, without realising how awkward it was for his eldest son who had to put up with the playground gossip his “innocent jokes” had caused. He was basically giving his sons bullies ammunition without realising it.

]]> By: Sean Clark http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-12994 Sean Clark Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:34:48 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-12994 Chris, This just strikes such a chord for me. When I first started out I used to use different personas and although I never claimed to be something I wasn't it is much easier being yourself. Of course the boundaries are important especially where family are concerned, just because we have chosen to reveal our souls doesn't mean our family should. On the introvert side, it's something I can say I am not but a real life networking event still gives me the creeps. Stick me on stage or in front of a camera and I'm fine. That said I still find myself struggling online in some circles. But where I never struggle is when I am talking about things I love, that's right, when being myself. Speak soon Sean Chris,

This just strikes such a chord for me. When I first started out I used to use different personas and although I never claimed to be something I wasn’t it is much easier being yourself. Of course the boundaries are important especially where family are concerned, just because we have chosen to reveal our souls doesn’t mean our family should.

On the introvert side, it’s something I can say I am not but a real life networking event still gives me the creeps. Stick me on stage or in front of a camera and I’m fine. That said I still find myself struggling online in some circles. But where I never struggle is when I am talking about things I love, that’s right, when being myself.

Speak soon
Sean

]]> By: Sean Clark http://www.chrisg.com/put-down-the-mask/#comment-21867 Sean Clark Sat, 13 Feb 2010 18:34:00 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/?p=1045#comment-21867 Chris, This just strikes such a chord for me. When I first started out I used to use different personas and although I never claimed to be something I wasn't it is much easier being yourself. Of course the boundaries are important especially where family are concerned, just because we have chosen to reveal our souls doesn't mean our family should. On the introvert side, it's something I can say I am not but a real life networking event still gives me the creeps. Stick me on stage or in front of a camera and I'm fine. That said I still find myself struggling online in some circles. But where I never struggle is when I am talking about things I love, that's right, when being myself. Speak soon Sean Chris,

This just strikes such a chord for me. When I first started out I used to use different personas and although I never claimed to be something I wasn’t it is much easier being yourself. Of course the boundaries are important especially where family are concerned, just because we have chosen to reveal our souls doesn’t mean our family should.

On the introvert side, it’s something I can say I am not but a real life networking event still gives me the creeps. Stick me on stage or in front of a camera and I’m fine. That said I still find myself struggling online in some circles. But where I never struggle is when I am talking about things I love, that’s right, when being myself.

Speak soon
Sean

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