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Why Positive Thinking Doesn’t Work for You and How to Fix it

I was reminded on Twitter by a quote how life coaches and gurus often talk about how sports people visualize victory.

They say if you use positive visualization, then your outcome will improve.

Then there are the people who tell you that if you use the “Law of Attraction”, that is if you ask the universe for something, and you believe, then what you ask for will come to you.

The problem is, for most people, experience does not match what they are taught. And that sucks.

In the headline I make a promise that you can make positive thinking work. How?

Let’s look at this pragmatically. Being upbeat and happy has to be better than being pessimistic and miserable, just out of pure quality of life benefit. So even if positive thinking had no other impact but to make you live life a little happier, then it has to be a good thing.

From a medical science point of view too, how you think has a profound impact on your body. Just look up the word “Placebo” then keep digging, if you want your mind blown.

What about those “big” material outcomes, like manifesting huge Cribs-style mansions, your dream date, or a Bugatti Veyron (in deep red please, with chrome trim)?

I actually do think you can convince the universe, reality, or the deity of your choice to give you a break on this stuff. Many successful people have claimed visualization or affirmations have brought them a great deal of that success. Some of the stuff I have experienced has lead me to think there is something to it.

This does not, however, mean that there has to be anything magical about it.

In fact, being a lapsed programmer, I think a lot of it has to do with the squidgy grey computer we have between our ears, and the coding we supply it.

Computer programmers have a term that I think applies well:

Garbage in; Garbage out

That is, if you shovel in bad code or data, don’t expect the results to be brilliant.

Think about what you are saying to yourself about the things you want. If you are constantly sending your bio computer the instruction to fail then that is what you will do.

Are you telling yourself things like …

“I am going to fail.

I don’t deserve this.

Why do I even bother.

This person hates me, they are just being polite.

Don’t look up, if nobody notices me I can just slip out.

Stupid stupid stupid.

What is the point, it won’t work.

What if everyone hates it?”

… because if you are, then you are putting garbage in and all you can expect to get out is garbage.

If instead you code your autopilot to be expecting success, and looking out for ways that your on-board computron can help you achieve that, then your results are likely to be much better. That’s not woo-woo, it’s actually one of your brain’s jobs!

It’s not just brain programming that makes all the difference though.

Think about those much-discussed visualizing athletes. As well as visualizing, what do they also do? (Ignoring those who sit around eating cookie dough ice cream instead of training, but through the power of visualization still miraculously win gold at the Olympics).

Pick out any winning athlete and I can guarantee they train very hard. Sorry to the folks who wanted to rely just on visualization, but it ain’t gonna happen. Nobody gives out gold medals just because the universe thinks you are awesome (if that did happen I wouldn’t be able to move for gold, right? right?).

So, what do you need, if not just thinking real hard?

  • Mindset (as mentioned above)
  • Training (daily learning and practice)
  • Action (because theory is not enough, you have to take steps rather than just think about it)

Pretty simple really, and I am positive that if you follow that you will get more of the results that you are wanting πŸ™‚

What say you? Please share your thoughts (positive or negative) in the comments ….

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  1. Hi Chris, coincidentally some puffery for Hamish MacRae’s new book in an article in today’s Independent “The Science of Success” (http://bit.ly/5miSal). Includes a ‘top 10’list of success factors. Top is “Optimism”.

  2. Hi Chris, coincidentally some puffery for Hamish MacRae’s new book in an article in today’s Independent “The Science of Success” (http://bit.ly/5miSal). Includes a ‘top 10’list of success factors. Top is “Optimism”.

  3. I think possibly the reason why positive thinking doesn’t work for people is that they don’t believe themselves. While the attempts at explaining the mechanics are dated and kind of funny, Napoleon Hill made an important point in the classic Think and Grow Rich: without faith, belief, and an emotional investment, your autosuggestions will fail.

  4. I think possibly the reason why positive thinking doesn’t work for people is that they don’t believe themselves. While the attempts at explaining the mechanics are dated and kind of funny, Napoleon Hill made an important point in the classic Think and Grow Rich: without faith, belief, and an emotional investment, your autosuggestions will fail.

  5. Hi – reading this article in the wake of another about the “delusion” of positive thinking! Not that your advice is that–practice and action are for real.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/6952353/Positive-thinking-making-us-miserable-says-author.html

  6. Hi – reading this article in the wake of another about the “delusion” of positive thinking! Not that your advice is that–practice and action are for real.

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/6952353/Positive-thinking-making-us-miserable-says-author.html

  7. I think you are right on Chris! I was given some books by Louise L. Hay who has been teaching people this same idea for years before it became popular. It’s a choice to change your thought process to the positive vs. the negative thoughts that seem to come so easily at times. It takes work. Great post … thanks for a good start to the week!

  8. I think you are right on Chris! I was given some books by Louise L. Hay who has been teaching people this same idea for years before it became popular. It’s a choice to change your thought process to the positive vs. the negative thoughts that seem to come so easily at times. It takes work. Great post … thanks for a good start to the week!

  9. Great stuff – whether we can attract stuff or visualise to win or whether we can’t it really doesn’t matter – what matters most is if we do think happy thoughts it changes our mood πŸ™‚

    Deep in the recession I panicked and things got worse. One day I was reminded no matter what I could choose to be happy. Everything changed. Whether it was just having a new perspective or whether changing shook my grey matter into helping me find a way out it worked. And find a way out I definitely did.

    I love this video on dancing to be happy!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyVyyKPnf58

    If nothing else you feel uplifted and shed a couple of pounds – why not. Got to be better than being a miserable so and so!

    Now ChrisG….

    I am sitting here visualising you offering me a free place in your authority training. I can see the email and am so happy at the result…… is it working πŸ™‚

  10. Great stuff – whether we can attract stuff or visualise to win or whether we can’t it really doesn’t matter – what matters most is if we do think happy thoughts it changes our mood πŸ™‚

    Deep in the recession I panicked and things got worse. One day I was reminded no matter what I could choose to be happy. Everything changed. Whether it was just having a new perspective or whether changing shook my grey matter into helping me find a way out it worked. And find a way out I definitely did.

    I love this video on dancing to be happy!

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyVyyKPnf58

    If nothing else you feel uplifted and shed a couple of pounds – why not. Got to be better than being a miserable so and so!

    Now ChrisG….

    I am sitting here visualising you offering me a free place in your authority training. I can see the email and am so happy at the result…… is it working πŸ™‚

  11. Early on this day I twitted something that converges this eye opening article in just one pill of wisdom (of course it’s not mine but… here’s it)

    The big secret in life is that there is no secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you are willing to work.

  12. Early on this day I twitted something that converges this eye opening article in just one pill of wisdom (of course it’s not mine but… here’s it)

    The big secret in life is that there is no secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you are willing to work.

  13. Chris – Brilliant post!

    I used to do a lot of creative visualization as my sole approach to success. But I stupidly left out the action part. And because I didn’t act, I didn’t get results. When I didn’t get results, my creative visualization was less effective. In other words, I doubted my potential instead of realizing my error around cause and effect (no action, no result).

    But now I’m a little smarter – I emphasize action. Taking action with expectation (bolstered by visualization), will create positive results.

    John

  14. Chris – Brilliant post!

    I used to do a lot of creative visualization as my sole approach to success. But I stupidly left out the action part. And because I didn’t act, I didn’t get results. When I didn’t get results, my creative visualization was less effective. In other words, I doubted my potential instead of realizing my error around cause and effect (no action, no result).

    But now I’m a little smarter – I emphasize action. Taking action with expectation (bolstered by visualization), will create positive results.

    John

  15. I definetly think there is a HUGE difference between POSITIVE THINKING and THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

    I don’t believe there is any “law” besides the proven ones but positive thinking, as you amazingly put it, helps us set us up for a great start on our [PLAN – DO – REVIEW] circuit.

    We can wait and wish for things to happen FOREVER! That’s why we need to stand up and GO GET IT!

    Thanx Chris!

  16. I definetly think there is a HUGE difference between POSITIVE THINKING and THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

    I don’t believe there is any “law” besides the proven ones but positive thinking, as you amazingly put it, helps us set us up for a great start on our [PLAN – DO – REVIEW] circuit.

    We can wait and wish for things to happen FOREVER! That’s why we need to stand up and GO GET IT!

    Thanx Chris!

  17. Yeah, I’m with you.

    The language we sue to speak to ourselves really matters.

    BTW, your guest post product is a steal. I was going to promote it without the affiliate… you’ve raised the bar at the $7 price point darn it!

    But I have no time, my site exploded over the weekend and I’m getting a bit crushed at the moment. High quality problem.

  18. Yeah, I’m with you.

    The language we sue to speak to ourselves really matters.

    BTW, your guest post product is a steal. I was going to promote it without the affiliate… you’ve raised the bar at the $7 price point darn it!

    But I have no time, my site exploded over the weekend and I’m getting a bit crushed at the moment. High quality problem.

  19. Dear Chris: Thank you for the opportunity to respond to the “positive thinking” topic!

    First
    Proverbs 14:12 “There is a way that seems right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”

    Second
    Proverbs 3:5+6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.”

    Third
    1st Thessalonians 5:16,17,18 “Rejoice evermore, Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

    This is real positive thinking: Philippians 4:8 “Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true,l whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

    Love, Francisco Rivera
    bawdon.biz

  20. Dear Chris: Thank you for the opportunity to respond to the “positive thinking” topic!

    First
    Proverbs 14:12 “There is a way that seems right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”

    Second
    Proverbs 3:5+6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.”

    Third
    1st Thessalonians 5:16,17,18 “Rejoice evermore, Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”

    This is real positive thinking: Philippians 4:8 “Finally brethren, whatsoever things are true,l whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

    Love, Francisco Rivera
    bawdon.biz

  21. I think that power of visualization lies in the incentive it gives us to take action – if we can REALLY feel what it will be like it is much more appealing to do the grunt work and stick through the tough spots.

    And I do think that if we visualize it often enough it becomes familiar – and then we become more comfortable with it. At that point doing the things that it takes are more possible since they are not so foreign to us and really have become more believable to us – so we have the confidence to do them.

    And that I believe is the big thing – having the confidence and belief that it can happen and even the expectation of ourselves – maybe it could be said that we are raising the bar for ourselves.

    That said, it’s just speculation to me at this point, ‘expecting’ things to work hasn’t really been foolproof for me so far :0).

    I’m not very good at visualizing either but I’m studying “The Law of Success” by Napolean Hill right now and I find that book to be very helpful in making things real on the inside. I’m only on chapter two though :0)

  22. I think this runs on the same lines as all those ‘lucky’ people. Chances are that they’ve managed to work at getting themselves to those lucky points and connected with the relevant people who later bestow this ‘luck’ upon them.

    I’m not saying that chance happenings never.. errr… happen; I’m just saying that most of the time there’s generally hard work behind ‘luck’ and staying positive even when things aren’t going to plan is of definite importance else you might throw in the towel when your goal was just around the next corner.

    Good stuff as always Chris!

    J

  23. I think that power of visualization lies in the incentive it gives us to take action – if we can REALLY feel what it will be like it is much more appealing to do the grunt work and stick through the tough spots.

    And I do think that if we visualize it often enough it becomes familiar – and then we become more comfortable with it. At that point doing the things that it takes are more possible since they are not so foreign to us and really have become more believable to us – so we have the confidence to do them.

    And that I believe is the big thing – having the confidence and belief that it can happen and even the expectation of ourselves – maybe it could be said that we are raising the bar for ourselves.

    That said, it’s just speculation to me at this point, ‘expecting’ things to work hasn’t really been foolproof for me so far :0).

    I’m not very good at visualizing either but I’m studying “The Law of Success” by Napolean Hill right now and I find that book to be very helpful in making things real on the inside. I’m only on chapter two though :0)

  24. I think this runs on the same lines as all those ‘lucky’ people. Chances are that they’ve managed to work at getting themselves to those lucky points and connected with the relevant people who later bestow this ‘luck’ upon them.

    I’m not saying that chance happenings never.. errr… happen; I’m just saying that most of the time there’s generally hard work behind ‘luck’ and staying positive even when things aren’t going to plan is of definite importance else you might throw in the towel when your goal was just around the next corner.

    Good stuff as always Chris!

    J

  25. Chris… Great post. I agree with your viewpoint. I’ve always felt that what you believe becomes your reality. And, it’s our self-talk that we say to ourselves that determines what we believe. But to realize our dreams we still need to act on our beliefs. It’s our individual “response-ability” that determines our destiny. …Howard

  26. Chris… Great post. I agree with your viewpoint. I’ve always felt that what you believe becomes your reality. And, it’s our self-talk that we say to ourselves that determines what we believe. But to realize our dreams we still need to act on our beliefs. It’s our individual “response-ability” that determines our destiny. …Howard

  27. Dear,there is no doubt about your thoughts on positive thoughts. Actually in my country (India) our gurus call it positive attitude.But if we will not take action then no use of positive thinking. Anyway you put a much discussed topic in a simple way.

  28. Dear,there is no doubt about your thoughts on positive thoughts. Actually in my country (India) our gurus call it positive attitude.But if we will not take action then no use of positive thinking. Anyway you put a much discussed topic in a simple way.

  29. Great way to start the week, Chris. Thank you.

    I believe in D: all of the above, although faith ranks highest on my list. If you believe you want something so bad that you won’t let anything stand in your way of achieving it, then nothing will stand in your way.
    We are what we repeatedly think, do, believe. Life is nothing but a mirror.

  30. Great way to start the week, Chris. Thank you.

    I believe in D: all of the above, although faith ranks highest on my list. If you believe you want something so bad that you won’t let anything stand in your way of achieving it, then nothing will stand in your way.
    We are what we repeatedly think, do, believe. Life is nothing but a mirror.

  31. Visualization is so important, as is Action. John Kehoe’s Mind Power is a wonderful program. It really works. http://www.learnmindpower.com/

  32. Visualization is so important, as is Action. John Kehoe’s Mind Power is a wonderful program. It really works. http://www.learnmindpower.com/

  33. You have inspired me Chris and I sincerely thank you for that. For whatever reason, I tend to gravitate toward cynicism and often negative thoughts. It is a constant battle to stay upbeat, focused, and positive. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who continually encourages me and of course posts like this one.

    I am gleaning lots of great info from your site and eagerly await more.

    Thanks again.

  34. This reminds of a new approach that I am taking this year after I realized that I was putting off doing things BECAUSE I enjoyed them, as if I was only supposed to be doing things if they seemed like work.

    Go figure! I am embracing the things that I like this year – almost more like a positive DOING rather than positive thinking about doing :0)) Or maybe a positive BEING.

    I wrote a post about it called I Want to Live… when I realized that I was sabotaging my fitness/health routine BECAUSE I liked doing it (so it seemed like an indulgence as if that was wrong). Too weird but true.

    Maybe that is part of the reason that clear visualization works, it makes us comfortable in believing that we are good enough for it.

  35. You have inspired me Chris and I sincerely thank you for that. For whatever reason, I tend to gravitate toward cynicism and often negative thoughts. It is a constant battle to stay upbeat, focused, and positive. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband who continually encourages me and of course posts like this one.

    I am gleaning lots of great info from your site and eagerly await more.

    Thanks again.

  36. This reminds of a new approach that I am taking this year after I realized that I was putting off doing things BECAUSE I enjoyed them, as if I was only supposed to be doing things if they seemed like work.

    Go figure! I am embracing the things that I like this year – almost more like a positive DOING rather than positive thinking about doing :0)) Or maybe a positive BEING.

    I wrote a post about it called I Want to Live… when I realized that I was sabotaging my fitness/health routine BECAUSE I liked doing it (so it seemed like an indulgence as if that was wrong). Too weird but true.

    Maybe that is part of the reason that clear visualization works, it makes us comfortable in believing that we are good enough for it.

  37. Interesting point Chris. I’ve seen many who set imaginary super-impossible goals for themselves and want the result very quickly while the role they consider for themselves is almost next-to-passive. Then, they complain or feel depressed for the failure.

    You’ve put the training stage in between. This indicates that our visions should be in line with the real world we’re living in, not merely in our fantasies.

    I appreciate the reminder as no matter how well you know it, you may easily get trapped into those sweet dreams!

  38. Interesting point Chris. I’ve seen many who set imaginary super-impossible goals for themselves and want the result very quickly while the role they consider for themselves is almost next-to-passive. Then, they complain or feel depressed for the failure.

    You’ve put the training stage in between. This indicates that our visions should be in line with the real world we’re living in, not merely in our fantasies.

    I appreciate the reminder as no matter how well you know it, you may easily get trapped into those sweet dreams!

  39. You are absolutely right, the major problem is the lack of action.
    You can have results without positive thinking or positive attitude.
    You also can have results without visualization.
    But you can’t have results without action.
    Put the three together and you can achieve miracle!

  40. You are absolutely right, the major problem is the lack of action.
    You can have results without positive thinking or positive attitude.
    You also can have results without visualization.
    But you can’t have results without action.
    Put the three together and you can achieve miracle!

  41. I completely agree. If I could sum this article up it would be, “Get Positive. Get to Work.”

    There is no easy answer out there, merely people who believe in themselves and put in the hard work.

    Has anyone lost weight by thinking positive about calorie fitting into skinny jeans while shoving cookies and candy into their mouth? I think not! πŸ™‚

  42. I completely agree. If I could sum this article up it would be, “Get Positive. Get to Work.”

    There is no easy answer out there, merely people who believe in themselves and put in the hard work.

    Has anyone lost weight by thinking positive about calorie fitting into skinny jeans while shoving cookies and candy into their mouth? I think not! πŸ™‚

  43. Excellent post, well presented as usual. I think high achievement springs from a confluence of hard work, the ability to recognize and pursue opportunity, resources and luck.

    With all due respect to the achievement coaching industry, the quickest path to a solution is usually asking one’s self in a quiet moment, “What’s obvious?”

    If you can answer that question honestly within the context of whatever problem you’re wrestling with, the solution will appear — but it may not be what you want it to be.

  44. Excellent post, well presented as usual. I think high achievement springs from a confluence of hard work, the ability to recognize and pursue opportunity, resources and luck.

    With all due respect to the achievement coaching industry, the quickest path to a solution is usually asking one’s self in a quiet moment, “What’s obvious?”

    If you can answer that question honestly within the context of whatever problem you’re wrestling with, the solution will appear — but it may not be what you want it to be.

  45. Hi Chris,
    As a personal coach, it’s my serious pet-peeve all this talk that positive thinking (alone) can change the (your) world. Actions fall out of beliefs (our thinking). We change our thinking and we begin to change our actions, but it takes practice- being able to create new habits… then, we get a different result. Something maybe we could not even have predicted inside our old thinking. Thank you for spelling this out clearly. It’s a treasure of a read. You are much appreciated. πŸ™‚
    Regina

  46. Hi Chris,
    As a personal coach, it’s my serious pet-peeve all this talk that positive thinking (alone) can change the (your) world. Actions fall out of beliefs (our thinking). We change our thinking and we begin to change our actions, but it takes practice- being able to create new habits… then, we get a different result. Something maybe we could not even have predicted inside our old thinking. Thank you for spelling this out clearly. It’s a treasure of a read. You are much appreciated. πŸ™‚
    Regina

  47. Positive thinking is only a part of changing a person’s beliefs. It’s an important part, so often we’re our own worst enemy when it comes to what we tell ourselves. We believe things we say in our minds that we would never tolerate someone saying to our face.

    Positive thinking does work, as long as it is backed up by changing our actions to support that thinking. Our subconscious mind will recognise a lie, however we can change that to become a truth by supporting the new positive thinking with repetition and actions.

    The only thing I would really add to your post is that a lot of our self-talk comes from previous experiences, and sometimes people need some help to get past them. I love NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) for this, because it can separate the emotion from the experience and change the way we think and percieve that experience. It changes how we react TODAY based on that experience in the past. I’m not saying NLP is the answer to everything, however when a person has trouble moving past the negative thinking it’s a great tool to use.

    The Law of Attraction – am I allowed to spit? LOL. The LOA is based on focus and taking action. Riches, gorgeous partners, mansions and luxury cars do not fall into your lap (some of those would crush you!) without a lot of work and thought put into them. To paraphrase a quote “The harder I work the more I attract”.

  48. Positive thinking is only a part of changing a person’s beliefs. It’s an important part, so often we’re our own worst enemy when it comes to what we tell ourselves. We believe things we say in our minds that we would never tolerate someone saying to our face.

    Positive thinking does work, as long as it is backed up by changing our actions to support that thinking. Our subconscious mind will recognise a lie, however we can change that to become a truth by supporting the new positive thinking with repetition and actions.

    The only thing I would really add to your post is that a lot of our self-talk comes from previous experiences, and sometimes people need some help to get past them. I love NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programing) for this, because it can separate the emotion from the experience and change the way we think and percieve that experience. It changes how we react TODAY based on that experience in the past. I’m not saying NLP is the answer to everything, however when a person has trouble moving past the negative thinking it’s a great tool to use.

    The Law of Attraction – am I allowed to spit? LOL. The LOA is based on focus and taking action. Riches, gorgeous partners, mansions and luxury cars do not fall into your lap (some of those would crush you!) without a lot of work and thought put into them. To paraphrase a quote “The harder I work the more I attract”.

  49. Of course positive (I prefer pro-active) affirmations will have an favorable effect on your psyche and result in better outcomes. The Buddha said this 2500 years ago! But the noosphere has little to do with the physiosphere, “thinking” is at a different level of exchange from physics and the crystalization of matter.

    What annoys me about the ‘Law of Attraction’, ‘The Secret’, ‘What the Bleep’, Abraham and every other New Age manifestation proclamation is that they claim that positive thinking actually quaffs into existence materialized forms.

    Ken Wilber has been famously writing about why this is not exactly right since 1978. Here is great dialogue on this topic- http://integrallife.com/apply/science-technology/does-quantum-physics-prove-god

    Once the Boomers got the idea in their head that they were the center of the Kosmos…well, fagetta bout it!

  50. Of course positive (I prefer pro-active) affirmations will have an favorable effect on your psyche and result in better outcomes. The Buddha said this 2500 years ago! But the noosphere has little to do with the physiosphere, “thinking” is at a different level of exchange from physics and the crystalization of matter.

    What annoys me about the ‘Law of Attraction’, ‘The Secret’, ‘What the Bleep’, Abraham and every other New Age manifestation proclamation is that they claim that positive thinking actually quaffs into existence materialized forms.

    Ken Wilber has been famously writing about why this is not exactly right since 1978. Here is great dialogue on this topic- http://integrallife.com/apply/science-technology/does-quantum-physics-prove-god

    Once the Boomers got the idea in their head that they were the center of the Kosmos…well, fagetta bout it!

  51. Melinda, spitting allowed, LOL!

    Chris, brilliant! Your provocative headline, which I glanced at in passing while heading somewhere else, grabbed my eye instantly and forced me to click. I admit, some of these New Age platitudes positively piss me off and I was truly interested in what you had to say.

    I actually totally agree with the power of positive thinking…I just see that often people mistake it for taking positive action. Gotta do both, as you say, or it’s just wishful thinking. As a lot of the comments point out, a healthy number of people do seem to understand the difference.

    If you’re up for a peek, I wrote about it here
    http://www.online-business-cookbook.com/money-might-follow

    and here
    http://www.online-business-cookbook.com/do-good-and-reap-self-esteem

    Love your posts! You’re a real human being. :)k

  52. Melinda, spitting allowed, LOL!

    Chris, brilliant! Your provocative headline, which I glanced at in passing while heading somewhere else, grabbed my eye instantly and forced me to click. I admit, some of these New Age platitudes positively piss me off and I was truly interested in what you had to say.

    I actually totally agree with the power of positive thinking…I just see that often people mistake it for taking positive action. Gotta do both, as you say, or it’s just wishful thinking. As a lot of the comments point out, a healthy number of people do seem to understand the difference.

    If you’re up for a peek, I wrote about it here
    http://www.online-business-cookbook.com/money-might-follow

    and here
    http://www.online-business-cookbook.com/do-good-and-reap-self-esteem

    Love your posts! You’re a real human being. :)k

  53. Simply put, great post, just what I needed. Keep up the great work Chris

  54. Simply put, great post, just what I needed. Keep up the great work Chris

  55. Great post and is very true, you need to be doing as well as visualising and positive thinking.

  56. Great post and is very true, you need to be doing as well as visualising and positive thinking.

  57. Many years ago I stumbled on a book by an author named Max
    Gunther who focused on rich people and how they got that way. The name of the book was How to Get Lucky, and for a while it was a bit of a cult classic. For a guy who had published a lot in Playboy, the book was a fairly serious analysis of a dozen plus traits often seen in people that were considered lucky. None of these traits were new-agey BS but behaviors almost anyone can adopt and Gunther illustrated them beautifully. The one I’m always reminded of in the context of social media is that lucky people tend to tell others what they want. Asking the “universe” for something is useless unless you communicate it to other people too. Gunther, who has been dead for many years, could have hardly imagined how social media…blogs, facebook, twitter, etc., would increase the potential audience we could reach with our wants. Nor would he have recognized the term “viral marketing.” There are other of the traits he describes that are relevant to Chris’ excellent post. Unfortunately the book is out of print but for years I was able to buy used copies on Amazon to give to friends who needed to generate some luck by changing their habits. It’s getting harder though. There was only one there today, listed for $69.

  58. Many years ago I stumbled on a book by an author named Max
    Gunther who focused on rich people and how they got that way. The name of the book was How to Get Lucky, and for a while it was a bit of a cult classic. For a guy who had published a lot in Playboy, the book was a fairly serious analysis of a dozen plus traits often seen in people that were considered lucky. None of these traits were new-agey BS but behaviors almost anyone can adopt and Gunther illustrated them beautifully. The one I’m always reminded of in the context of social media is that lucky people tend to tell others what they want. Asking the “universe” for something is useless unless you communicate it to other people too. Gunther, who has been dead for many years, could have hardly imagined how social media…blogs, facebook, twitter, etc., would increase the potential audience we could reach with our wants. Nor would he have recognized the term “viral marketing.” There are other of the traits he describes that are relevant to Chris’ excellent post. Unfortunately the book is out of print but for years I was able to buy used copies on Amazon to give to friends who needed to generate some luck by changing their habits. It’s getting harder though. There was only one there today, listed for $69.

  59. Great post, Chris! I am one of those “coaches”, actually a career coach and I talk about this constantly. And I completely agree when yout talked about “why not think this way?” Regardless you are going to be happier thinking positive thoughts.

    I also really like the concept of not worrying about the “how” something will happen. So many times you read about someone successful and they always say that their success showed up in ways they never imagined. That’s not to say that they didn’t work hard, it’s just that so many times our mind will be logical and think, “This can’t possibly happen because of this…” When truth be told, if you think positively and work hard, the “universe” will find ways you never thought of to bring you what you want. It’s a good reminder for me and all of us to not get caught up in the “how” it’s going to happen.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  60. Great post, Chris! I am one of those “coaches”, actually a career coach and I talk about this constantly. And I completely agree when yout talked about “why not think this way?” Regardless you are going to be happier thinking positive thoughts.

    I also really like the concept of not worrying about the “how” something will happen. So many times you read about someone successful and they always say that their success showed up in ways they never imagined. That’s not to say that they didn’t work hard, it’s just that so many times our mind will be logical and think, “This can’t possibly happen because of this…” When truth be told, if you think positively and work hard, the “universe” will find ways you never thought of to bring you what you want. It’s a good reminder for me and all of us to not get caught up in the “how” it’s going to happen.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  61. Those who say positive thinking doesn’t work for them are proof positive of how the mind works. Anything you program into your mind, as you’ve pointed out, will pan out.

    Instead of focusing on positive thinking, I think we need to just say thinking works. Then choose the kind of results you want: positive or negative, and think that way.

    Of course, the training and action part of the formula are essential. So many miss these two components and the results will likely be less than positive.

  62. Those who say positive thinking doesn’t work for them are proof positive of how the mind works. Anything you program into your mind, as you’ve pointed out, will pan out.

    Instead of focusing on positive thinking, I think we need to just say thinking works. Then choose the kind of results you want: positive or negative, and think that way.

    Of course, the training and action part of the formula are essential. So many miss these two components and the results will likely be less than positive.

  63. Based on my experience – there IS something magical about it, though. This doesn’t mean ‘don’t work’ but I’ve had things happen that there wasn’t really any better explanation for than magic, based on changing thoughts and behavior.

    The universe is very interesting. Just saying.

  64. Based on my experience – there IS something magical about it, though. This doesn’t mean ‘don’t work’ but I’ve had things happen that there wasn’t really any better explanation for than magic, based on changing thoughts and behavior.

    The universe is very interesting. Just saying.

  65. Chris

    I totally agree with your powerful line “…This does not, however, mean that there has to be anything magical about it….”

    For magic read ‘lucky’. I have found that the harder, or the SMARTER I work, the luckier I get.

    This year has hardly begun yet it’s already booming, mostly because I put in steady work with my team on a path to which I am suited, not someone else’s glitzy shiny ‘Think Positive get Rich’ scheme.

    The secret is to avoid ‘think positive’, but DO positive. Focus on the right things / take action. Positive feelings then pour out of this.

    Hope this helps, works for me.

    Jonathan

  66. Chris

    I totally agree with your powerful line “…This does not, however, mean that there has to be anything magical about it….”

    For magic read ‘lucky’. I have found that the harder, or the SMARTER I work, the luckier I get.

    This year has hardly begun yet it’s already booming, mostly because I put in steady work with my team on a path to which I am suited, not someone else’s glitzy shiny ‘Think Positive get Rich’ scheme.

    The secret is to avoid ‘think positive’, but DO positive. Focus on the right things / take action. Positive feelings then pour out of this.

    Hope this helps, works for me.

    Jonathan

  67. Kate Robins says:

    Being upbeat and happy has to be better than being pessimistic and miserable…” Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do one thing every day that scares you.” It works. You undo problems, overcome fears, and move on to overcoming bigger fears for bigger rewards. Nice topic. Thanks.

  68. Being upbeat and happy has to be better than being pessimistic and miserable…” Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do one thing every day that scares you.” It works. You undo problems, overcome fears, and move on to overcoming bigger fears for bigger rewards. Nice topic. Thanks.

  69. Enjoyed your article. I know “for fact” that positive thinking works. (I also know that facts don’t change feelings πŸ™‚ In fact, positive thinking works in the same way as negative thinking works. Having practiced both, I ought to know πŸ™‚ The differences in outcomes and results are large enough to convince even the most skeptical person – provided he or she lives to see it. Can you promise that you can make positive thinking work? Absolutely. “Simply” stop negative thinking, see what happens (Simply in hyphens because it ain’t that simple. Nevertheless, it’s plenty enough). For more (on pos thinking) “Advice To Kids Whose Parents Don’t Believe In The Law Of Attraction – By A Kid (Who Is Also A Parent)” :-)))
    http://www.beatschindler.com/self-development/law-of-attraction

  70. Enjoyed your article. I know “for fact” that positive thinking works. (I also know that facts don’t change feelings πŸ™‚ In fact, positive thinking works in the same way as negative thinking works. Having practiced both, I ought to know πŸ™‚ The differences in outcomes and results are large enough to convince even the most skeptical person – provided he or she lives to see it. Can you promise that you can make positive thinking work? Absolutely. “Simply” stop negative thinking, see what happens (Simply in hyphens because it ain’t that simple. Nevertheless, it’s plenty enough). For more (on pos thinking) “Advice To Kids Whose Parents Don’t Believe In The Law Of Attraction – By A Kid (Who Is Also A Parent)” :-)))
    http://www.beatschindler.com/self-development/law-of-attraction

  71. Great Post. People should read this after reading the book “The Secret”. I agree to the book at some point, but yeah more importantly there should actually be action.

    i think what “the secret” is actually pointing out is that when you always visualize your wants and you’ll feel like you’re already getting it. Even if it is not visible or true, you can actually feel it already.

  72. Great Post. People should read this after reading the book “The Secret”. I agree to the book at some point, but yeah more importantly there should actually be action.

    i think what “the secret” is actually pointing out is that when you always visualize your wants and you’ll feel like you’re already getting it. Even if it is not visible or true, you can actually feel it already.

  73. Nice topic Chris, really makes me feel at home: what you wrote is all depending on your starting point. If you have an average amount of success you can more easily build on it; people on the lower end of the scale are usually too busy surviving than building success. However positive you think and however you believe in your success any outcome will set a measure or a model for your next action and if your starting point is low it’s very easy spiralling backward and downward.

    Positive outcome can be planned and it’s more likely to be successful if working in partnership of somebody else who keeps you accountable about your actions, keeps you motivated when you are down and share your joy when you succeed. Some times a friend or a relative can help but when that fails a professional coach will help you exactly in that.

  74. Nice topic Chris, really makes me feel at home: what you wrote is all depending on your starting point. If you have an average amount of success you can more easily build on it; people on the lower end of the scale are usually too busy surviving than building success. However positive you think and however you believe in your success any outcome will set a measure or a model for your next action and if your starting point is low it’s very easy spiralling backward and downward.

    Positive outcome can be planned and it’s more likely to be successful if working in partnership of somebody else who keeps you accountable about your actions, keeps you motivated when you are down and share your joy when you succeed. Some times a friend or a relative can help but when that fails a professional coach will help you exactly in that.

  75. Amen. You’re absolutely correct. You have to act on your positive thoughts. Overcoming fear is a big part of both positive thinking and acting. I will share this post with a very close person in my life, whom I think would benefit from it greatly. Thanks, Chris!

  76. Amen. You’re absolutely correct. You have to act on your positive thoughts. Overcoming fear is a big part of both positive thinking and acting. I will share this post with a very close person in my life, whom I think would benefit from it greatly. Thanks, Chris!

  77. Important post!
    Remember that you have to get positive – but reality still bites!
    Hard earned lessons should still be taken into account when working towards a more positive attitude. YES, it is going to be hard – but in the end it is possible. Always remember reality.

  78. Important post!
    Remember that you have to get positive – but reality still bites!
    Hard earned lessons should still be taken into account when working towards a more positive attitude. YES, it is going to be hard – but in the end it is possible. Always remember reality.

  79. Stellar post, Chris! Thanks!

    We have have dedicated our lives to researching, understanding and developing the human potential. The moment misc. “gurus” attempted to metaphysisize sound principles and actionable knowledge about how to bring about successful outcomes, men and women of all backgrounds either came out as (coincidentally) successful, OR unsuccessful; not on reality’s terms, but according to “secretive and universal Laws”… (as claimed by the referenced “gurus”).

    The negative side of expecting positive thinking, visualization and affirmations ALONE to bring material and other types of ‘success’ to fruition, is obvious. Metaphorically speaking; people want milk, and sit down on their butts in the meadows waiting for a cow to back up! When neither cows nor milk show up, they blame themselves (and are BEING blamed at times) – for not ‘sending out the right thoughts’, etc. As you so elegantly point out; positive thinking married with positive/proactive action cause a new awareness and reality, allowing us to bring about successful outcomes, again – on reality’s terms!

    Thoughts cause feelings; which lead to actions (or lack thereof)… Limiting beliefs are learned patterns. They can (luckily) be RE-learned and applied in a more sound framework. Within this framework, success comes as a result of the integration of self-efficacy, optimism, positive thinking, as well as self-control; AND willingness to put in the work/training that makes for predictable living; and predictable, positive outcomes!

    This is a quantum leap from the over-simplified, ‘metaphysisized’ do-nothing (but asking/sending thoughts to the universe) get-anything approach to success. As Therapists & Mentors, we also provide support to 100s of human ‘shipwrecks’, whom mostly ended where they are due to misconstrued “Laws” fueling the disastrous misconception that there’s a Success Autopilot available for individuals, SOLELY based on positive thinking/correct visualization and powerful affirmations – WITHOUT responsible action in line with such critical precursors for success. Your clarifying and simple helicopter perspectives are called for, and golden nuggets in a time bombarded by “quick fixes” that cause more harm than good. Keep up the good work, Chris! You’re a gem among blogosphere flagship content providers!

    Warmest, Kristen L. Skogrand

  80. Stellar post, Chris! Thanks!

    We have have dedicated our lives to researching, understanding and developing the human potential. The moment misc. “gurus” attempted to metaphysisize sound principles and actionable knowledge about how to bring about successful outcomes, men and women of all backgrounds either came out as (coincidentally) successful, OR unsuccessful; not on reality’s terms, but according to “secretive and universal Laws”… (as claimed by the referenced “gurus”).

    The negative side of expecting positive thinking, visualization and affirmations ALONE to bring material and other types of ‘success’ to fruition, is obvious. Metaphorically speaking; people want milk, and sit down on their butts in the meadows waiting for a cow to back up! When neither cows nor milk show up, they blame themselves (and are BEING blamed at times) – for not ‘sending out the right thoughts’, etc. As you so elegantly point out; positive thinking married with positive/proactive action cause a new awareness and reality, allowing us to bring about successful outcomes, again – on reality’s terms!

    Thoughts cause feelings; which lead to actions (or lack thereof)… Limiting beliefs are learned patterns. They can (luckily) be RE-learned and applied in a more sound framework. Within this framework, success comes as a result of the integration of self-efficacy, optimism, positive thinking, as well as self-control; AND willingness to put in the work/training that makes for predictable living; and predictable, positive outcomes!

    This is a quantum leap from the over-simplified, ‘metaphysisized’ do-nothing (but asking/sending thoughts to the universe) get-anything approach to success. As Therapists & Mentors, we also provide support to 100s of human ‘shipwrecks’, whom mostly ended where they are due to misconstrued “Laws” fueling the disastrous misconception that there’s a Success Autopilot available for individuals, SOLELY based on positive thinking/correct visualization and powerful affirmations – WITHOUT responsible action in line with such critical precursors for success. Your clarifying and simple helicopter perspectives are called for, and golden nuggets in a time bombarded by “quick fixes” that cause more harm than good. Keep up the good work, Chris! You’re a gem among blogosphere flagship content providers!

    Warmest, Kristen L. Skogrand

  81. Hi Chris,

    Definite food for thought!

    I do agree with the law of attraction and I do agree with our mind set playing a big part in our future and what we attract.

    And yes action is important as well, however I think this is where a lot of people don’t know where to begin. I have met so many people that say the positive stuff and yet hey are still in the same place they were 10 years ago!

    I do believe some people may need help in really reprogramming their brains. It is OK to say it all, but they really need to believe it!

    I do believe that goal setting can also help us achieve and change our momentum. Not just writing the goals on a piece of paper and putting it in the draw. Actually writing the goal down and placing it on a wall you see every day so you read it every day. Another trick I like is creating a visualization board. Actually cut out pictures of what your desire to attract, the words the images the feelings. These boards work, especially if you look at the pictures everyday.

    Thank you for the food for thought.

    Kind Regards

    Jacinta πŸ˜€

  82. Hi Chris,

    Definite food for thought!

    I do agree with the law of attraction and I do agree with our mind set playing a big part in our future and what we attract.

    And yes action is important as well, however I think this is where a lot of people don’t know where to begin. I have met so many people that say the positive stuff and yet hey are still in the same place they were 10 years ago!

    I do believe some people may need help in really reprogramming their brains. It is OK to say it all, but they really need to believe it!

    I do believe that goal setting can also help us achieve and change our momentum. Not just writing the goals on a piece of paper and putting it in the draw. Actually writing the goal down and placing it on a wall you see every day so you read it every day. Another trick I like is creating a visualization board. Actually cut out pictures of what your desire to attract, the words the images the feelings. These boards work, especially if you look at the pictures everyday.

    Thank you for the food for thought.

    Kind Regards

    Jacinta πŸ˜€

  83. Chris,

    I’m a coach and I can’t stand the idea that “If I think it, it will come!” One of the other comments touched on this. Part of what makes visualization or mental rehearsal effective is the permission to believe you are capable of that action. Elite athletes and other successful people give themselves permission to be capable. This is not woo-hoo stuff or New Age-y at all.I often suggest to my clients to give themselves permission to do one thing. Then another step. Eventually you are doing what you previously imagined!

  84. Chris,

    I’m a coach and I can’t stand the idea that “If I think it, it will come!” One of the other comments touched on this. Part of what makes visualization or mental rehearsal effective is the permission to believe you are capable of that action. Elite athletes and other successful people give themselves permission to be capable. This is not woo-hoo stuff or New Age-y at all.I often suggest to my clients to give themselves permission to do one thing. Then another step. Eventually you are doing what you previously imagined!

  85. Charlie Ahern says:

    Sorry,but you’ll discover that a Bugatti is only a car. If you pray that a car will make you happy, you’ll be disappointed. Try providing value, rather than wishing for a thing. Read “The How of Happiness” for more effective ideas.

  86. Charlie Ahern says:

    Sorry,but you’ll discover that a Bugatti is only a car. If you pray that a car will make you happy, you’ll be disappointed. Try providing value, rather than wishing for a thing. Read “The How of Happiness” for more effective ideas.

  87. I agree with all your points. Positive thinking is a waste if there is no execution. It’s like a talk will not work if it will not be walked. Finally, positive thinking should be consistent that our momentum should be maintained for it to be able to work for us.

  88. I agree with all your points. Positive thinking is a waste if there is no execution. It’s like a talk will not work if it will not be walked. Finally, positive thinking should be consistent that our momentum should be maintained for it to be able to work for us.

  89. Caryl Westmore says:

    Chris like a virus hidden on your computer unconscious BELIEFS and PROGRAMMING can slow down results and trip you up with the Law of Attraction bringing you what you DON’T WANT. By all means…keep positive…take action too …AND use a technique like EFT or other emotional-energy techniques like my Break-Free Fast Formula. Honestly, I speak from personal experience from my own life and many of my clients. Only 10 years ago I was broke, homeless, angry with men and fed up with years of “affirming positively”. But thank goodness, I BROKE FREE! And today – well it’s all in my book, dream life, dream man, financially free… So believe me…the Law of Attraction works 100%

  90. Caryl Westmore says:

    Chris like a virus hidden on your computer unconscious BELIEFS and PROGRAMMING can slow down results and trip you up with the Law of Attraction bringing you what you DON’T WANT. By all means…keep positive…take action too …AND use a technique like EFT or other emotional-energy techniques like my Break-Free Fast Formula. Honestly, I speak from personal experience from my own life and many of my clients. Only 10 years ago I was broke, homeless, angry with men and fed up with years of “affirming positively”. But thank goodness, I BROKE FREE! And today – well it’s all in my book, dream life, dream man, financially free… So believe me…the Law of Attraction works 100%

  91. Great piece. Is the road to happiness really only open to those who can simply banish negative thoughts from their minds? Research suggests otherwise – any attempt to suppress those negative thoughts is likely to increase not decrease misery.

  92. Great piece. Is the road to happiness really only open to those who can simply banish negative thoughts from their minds? Research suggests otherwise – any attempt to suppress those negative thoughts is likely to increase not decrease misery.

  93. My understanding is sports people visualise themselves performing well, rather than standing on top of the podium with cup raised. Someone else has already linked to the Barbara Ehrenreich book reviews, where she gives positive thinking a good kicking.
    But it appears her attack is more on the culture (or even cult) of positive thinking which believes all ill can be solved by “thinking right”. My response to Law of Attraction advocates is to try some of their “manifesting” in a casino…
    As a blogger on self improvement I’ve written a great deal about challenging negative thinking and how thinking can affect your mood, etc. I’m a great advocate for positive thinking, as opposed to negative thinking! But as you say, its just a part of the process.

  94. My understanding is sports people visualise themselves performing well, rather than standing on top of the podium with cup raised. Someone else has already linked to the Barbara Ehrenreich book reviews, where she gives positive thinking a good kicking.
    But it appears her attack is more on the culture (or even cult) of positive thinking which believes all ill can be solved by “thinking right”. My response to Law of Attraction advocates is to try some of their “manifesting” in a casino…
    As a blogger on self improvement I’ve written a great deal about challenging negative thinking and how thinking can affect your mood, etc. I’m a great advocate for positive thinking, as opposed to negative thinking! But as you say, its just a part of the process.

  95. Dear Chris:

    What a discussion this post has started! Awesome!

    I thought about this a ton as well. I came to very similar conclusions just as you did.

    Our brains cannot tell the difference between good or bad or anything. It just recognizes data. Essentially, we can program ourselves to be as we want us to be!

    But without action it does not work! It’s pretty simple, just like you said.

    Somewhat.

    Here’s what else needs to happen:

    You need to know why you are doing what you are doing
    You need to know yourself and your life purpose to find the right things to do
    You must know your own values and what drives you before applying positive thinking

    Why? It gives you a context for your actions and you are not left blindly following things that everybody else wants. If who you are does not support what you want then no matter how hard you try, your desires will not manifest.

    Best,
    Tomas

  96. Dear Chris:

    What a discussion this post has started! Awesome!

    I thought about this a ton as well. I came to very similar conclusions just as you did.

    Our brains cannot tell the difference between good or bad or anything. It just recognizes data. Essentially, we can program ourselves to be as we want us to be!

    But without action it does not work! It’s pretty simple, just like you said.

    Somewhat.

    Here’s what else needs to happen:

    You need to know why you are doing what you are doing
    You need to know yourself and your life purpose to find the right things to do
    You must know your own values and what drives you before applying positive thinking

    Why? It gives you a context for your actions and you are not left blindly following things that everybody else wants. If who you are does not support what you want then no matter how hard you try, your desires will not manifest.

    Best,
    Tomas

  97. “So, what do you need, if not just thinking real hard?

    * Mindset (as mentioned above)
    * Training (daily learning and practice)
    * Action (because theory is not enough, you have to take steps rather than just think about it)

    “Pretty simple really, and I am positive that if you follow that you will get more of the results that you are wanting”

    Actually, every successful person already knows and practices the above but you presented that truth again in a fresh way in your post. A reminder for those who believe that visualization alone would do the trick.

    Thanks Chris for this interesting post.

    Jose

  98. “So, what do you need, if not just thinking real hard?

    * Mindset (as mentioned above)
    * Training (daily learning and practice)
    * Action (because theory is not enough, you have to take steps rather than just think about it)

    “Pretty simple really, and I am positive that if you follow that you will get more of the results that you are wanting”

    Actually, every successful person already knows and practices the above but you presented that truth again in a fresh way in your post. A reminder for those who believe that visualization alone would do the trick.

    Thanks Chris for this interesting post.

    Jose

  99. Agree with you on that one. I don’t know of any successful person who get there without a lot of practice, hard work, and taking action.

    The guys at the triumphantevetns put it nicely:
    Think it, ink it, do it, review it

  100. Agree with you on that one. I don’t know of any successful person who get there without a lot of practice, hard work, and taking action.

    The guys at the triumphantevetns put it nicely:
    Think it, ink it, do it, review it

  101. I always tell new entrepreneurs and myself to focus on the process, not on the outcome. We never know what any outcome is going to be so if you just get up and work on the middle of any project everyday, you will always be pushing forward. a lot of being negative is about focusing on an outcome that might never happen or won’t happen in the way that you want. i think the far east term is something like happiness is in the journey.

  102. I always tell new entrepreneurs and myself to focus on the process, not on the outcome. We never know what any outcome is going to be so if you just get up and work on the middle of any project everyday, you will always be pushing forward. a lot of being negative is about focusing on an outcome that might never happen or won’t happen in the way that you want. i think the far east term is something like happiness is in the journey.

  103. @Norman – It makes sense to me that optimism is crucial, I have found successful business people are often optimistic

    @Michael – Exactly, and when you think of people like Steve Jobs, they are often criticized for their arrogance but I think we can all do with a little of their self belief πŸ™‚

    @Eric – Interesting link, thanks πŸ™‚

    @Jennifer – It does take work but worthwhile I think, even if we can’t be happy all the time, we can be more concious about how we are programming ourselves

    @Diane – Well I would be going against my own advice if I suggested just asking was enough, what are you going to do towards manifesting? πŸ™‚

    @Cristian – Nice quote πŸ™‚

    @John – Action serves a bigger purpose than just doing stuff, it is a feedback mechanism to our programming that you have made a decision towards the thing you were thinking about. Once you make *decisive* action things tend to click into place naturally.

    @RoX – Yup, sitting in bed dreaming just gives you bed sores πŸ™‚

    @Dave – Well it has raised to the crazy expensive price of … $10 πŸ˜‰

    @Francisco – I sadly found out recently that “God helps those who help themselves” was actually a quote from Ben Franklin, not the Bible. True story. I think it is a shame because that quote matches my experience.

    @Jan – I agree. Paul McKenna has this concept of a “financial thermostat” and if you set yours too low you will never reach the potential that you are capable of – people sabotage their own efforts rather than escape that comfort zone.

    @Jay – Yup, Dr Richard Wiseman has a great book about that, essentially by being more open and optimistic you can improve your own luck – at least scientific PHD type doctor guy says so convincingly πŸ™‚

    @Howard – Nicely put πŸ™‚

    @Yusuf – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @David – I would say life is a magnifying mirror like those you get at the fairground πŸ™‚

    @Juanita – Thanks I will check it out

    @Jaszy – Glad to help πŸ™‚

    @Jan – If you enjoy your work it stops being work πŸ™‚

    @Rahman – Dreams are great, but only expect ambitions that you act on to become a reality πŸ˜‰

    @Yan – Exactly. Some stuff has happened to me that seems a gift from up above, but when you really look at it, everything that came before paved the way so I was prepared to take the opportunity when it came.

    @Donloree – Shhh, I am still hoping to dream this belly away πŸ˜‰

    @Mel – Sometimes you have to take a small action just to understand the challenge better, it’s not always clear what the whole journey will look like before you begin.

    @regina – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @Melinda – I have been interested in NLP for a while and keep promising myself to go on a proper course. Funnily enough it is my fear of what I might unearth that puts me off πŸ˜‰ Perhaps I can make time this year.

    @Ev – Will check out that link, thanks πŸ™‚

    @Suzanne – Will check out your posts now πŸ™‚

    @Paul – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @Brenda – Doing, even if it doesn’t work, at least teaches something new πŸ™‚

    @Jay – Sounds like a great book, I will hunt ebay πŸ™‚

    @Suzannah – Difficult challenges wouldn’t be difficult if we knew exactly how to solve them would they? πŸ˜‰

    @Flora – yeah, just like a computer, your brain doesn’t care how it is programmed, it just does as it is told πŸ™‚

    @Lee – The universe is wild, and stuff has happened in my experience that I couldn’t explain.

    @Jonathan – Action is what makes things happen, but the better prepared you are the better your results πŸ™‚

    @Kate – You can be scared without being miserable – I scare myself on theme park rides, snowboarding, supercars, and public speaking for example πŸ™‚

    @Beat – Will check out the link, thanks

    @Kim – Yes I think if people are inspired and then take positive steps they will be happier.

    @Massimo – We all have to start somewhere and play the cards we are dealt, it just seems some people want to find a way to cheat at the game rather than work πŸ˜‰

    @Mary – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @JeppeKM – Reality can also be wonderful if we are willing to face it πŸ™‚

    @Kristen – It seems that some people feel entitled and so it makes sense that they just have to sit and wait for the riches to come. The pot of gold could be just round the corner but if they don’t start walking they will never find it πŸ˜‰

    @Jacinta – Over the years I have drawn sketches of the scenarios I wanted to come to fruition and some of them have been scarily accurate. Scott Adams would write his out in a journal. The reason I think it works is it forces you to decide the *details* of what your goal is. With specifity your ambition is more serious and decisive, even if the outcome is not exact, the intention is more real.

    @Elli – Yup, eat the elephant one bite at a time and it suddenly seems more “doable” πŸ™‚

    @Charlie – OK, you have convinced me. Instead of a Bugatti I want an Aston Martin.

    @Vic – Yes true, consistency is important.

    @Caryl – My wife has tried EFT classes and she found it very interesting.

    @Dave – There is a difference between surpressing and not dwelling. It is natural and human to have less than positive thoughts. We all go through bad patches. Read elsewhere on this blog to get some ideas of what ours have been. The point I make in this article is that you can choose to keep chewing over the negative or you can aim to recognise those thoughts and what they mean, then guide your thinking towards good stuff, what you do want, what you are grateful for, what makes you happy.

    @David – Yup, the brain can use its own “virtual reality” to train, but the sportsman still has to take this training to the field πŸ˜‰

    @Tomas – Agreed, and you might be wanting something that goes against your values, which would cause conflict in programming.

    @Jose – And thank you for reading it πŸ™‚

    @DynamoAsh – I like that quote, sums it up nicely πŸ™‚

    @chuck – Ah yes, if you can enjoy the journey it doesn’t really matter where you end up πŸ™‚

  104. @Norman – It makes sense to me that optimism is crucial, I have found successful business people are often optimistic

    @Michael – Exactly, and when you think of people like Steve Jobs, they are often criticized for their arrogance but I think we can all do with a little of their self belief πŸ™‚

    @Eric – Interesting link, thanks πŸ™‚

    @Jennifer – It does take work but worthwhile I think, even if we can’t be happy all the time, we can be more concious about how we are programming ourselves

    @Diane – Well I would be going against my own advice if I suggested just asking was enough, what are you going to do towards manifesting? πŸ™‚

    @Cristian – Nice quote πŸ™‚

    @John – Action serves a bigger purpose than just doing stuff, it is a feedback mechanism to our programming that you have made a decision towards the thing you were thinking about. Once you make *decisive* action things tend to click into place naturally.

    @RoX – Yup, sitting in bed dreaming just gives you bed sores πŸ™‚

    @Dave – Well it has raised to the crazy expensive price of … $10 πŸ˜‰

    @Francisco – I sadly found out recently that “God helps those who help themselves” was actually a quote from Ben Franklin, not the Bible. True story. I think it is a shame because that quote matches my experience.

    @Jan – I agree. Paul McKenna has this concept of a “financial thermostat” and if you set yours too low you will never reach the potential that you are capable of – people sabotage their own efforts rather than escape that comfort zone.

    @Jay – Yup, Dr Richard Wiseman has a great book about that, essentially by being more open and optimistic you can improve your own luck – at least scientific PHD type doctor guy says so convincingly πŸ™‚

    @Howard – Nicely put πŸ™‚

    @Yusuf – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @David – I would say life is a magnifying mirror like those you get at the fairground πŸ™‚

    @Juanita – Thanks I will check it out

    @Jaszy – Glad to help πŸ™‚

    @Jan – If you enjoy your work it stops being work πŸ™‚

    @Rahman – Dreams are great, but only expect ambitions that you act on to become a reality πŸ˜‰

    @Yan – Exactly. Some stuff has happened to me that seems a gift from up above, but when you really look at it, everything that came before paved the way so I was prepared to take the opportunity when it came.

    @Donloree – Shhh, I am still hoping to dream this belly away πŸ˜‰

    @Mel – Sometimes you have to take a small action just to understand the challenge better, it’s not always clear what the whole journey will look like before you begin.

    @regina – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @Melinda – I have been interested in NLP for a while and keep promising myself to go on a proper course. Funnily enough it is my fear of what I might unearth that puts me off πŸ˜‰ Perhaps I can make time this year.

    @Ev – Will check out that link, thanks πŸ™‚

    @Suzanne – Will check out your posts now πŸ™‚

    @Paul – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @Brenda – Doing, even if it doesn’t work, at least teaches something new πŸ™‚

    @Jay – Sounds like a great book, I will hunt ebay πŸ™‚

    @Suzannah – Difficult challenges wouldn’t be difficult if we knew exactly how to solve them would they? πŸ˜‰

    @Flora – yeah, just like a computer, your brain doesn’t care how it is programmed, it just does as it is told πŸ™‚

    @Lee – The universe is wild, and stuff has happened in my experience that I couldn’t explain.

    @Jonathan – Action is what makes things happen, but the better prepared you are the better your results πŸ™‚

    @Kate – You can be scared without being miserable – I scare myself on theme park rides, snowboarding, supercars, and public speaking for example πŸ™‚

    @Beat – Will check out the link, thanks

    @Kim – Yes I think if people are inspired and then take positive steps they will be happier.

    @Massimo – We all have to start somewhere and play the cards we are dealt, it just seems some people want to find a way to cheat at the game rather than work πŸ˜‰

    @Mary – Thanks πŸ™‚

    @JeppeKM – Reality can also be wonderful if we are willing to face it πŸ™‚

    @Kristen – It seems that some people feel entitled and so it makes sense that they just have to sit and wait for the riches to come. The pot of gold could be just round the corner but if they don’t start walking they will never find it πŸ˜‰

    @Jacinta – Over the years I have drawn sketches of the scenarios I wanted to come to fruition and some of them have been scarily accurate. Scott Adams would write his out in a journal. The reason I think it works is it forces you to decide the *details* of what your goal is. With specifity your ambition is more serious and decisive, even if the outcome is not exact, the intention is more real.

    @Elli – Yup, eat the elephant one bite at a time and it suddenly seems more “doable” πŸ™‚

    @Charlie – OK, you have convinced me. Instead of a Bugatti I want an Aston Martin.

    @Vic – Yes true, consistency is important.

    @Caryl – My wife has tried EFT classes and she found it very interesting.

    @Dave – There is a difference between surpressing and not dwelling. It is natural and human to have less than positive thoughts. We all go through bad patches. Read elsewhere on this blog to get some ideas of what ours have been. The point I make in this article is that you can choose to keep chewing over the negative or you can aim to recognise those thoughts and what they mean, then guide your thinking towards good stuff, what you do want, what you are grateful for, what makes you happy.

    @David – Yup, the brain can use its own “virtual reality” to train, but the sportsman still has to take this training to the field πŸ˜‰

    @Tomas – Agreed, and you might be wanting something that goes against your values, which would cause conflict in programming.

    @Jose – And thank you for reading it πŸ™‚

    @DynamoAsh – I like that quote, sums it up nicely πŸ™‚

    @chuck – Ah yes, if you can enjoy the journey it doesn’t really matter where you end up πŸ™‚

  105. Hey Chris,

    I have to say that positive thinking does work, the thing that most people forget is the action part of it. Thinking of what you want and believing that you will get it should make you work harder to get it and in doing so will of course end up with you getting it.

    On the other hand if the people who say it doesn’t work have just been staring at pretty pictures of nice cars and houses without taking action they will get nowhere.

    I can’t remember where I saw it but it was about positive thinking saying if you put a glass of water on a table and believe and wish for a drink it will never happen. It is the action of picking up the glass that will get you the water.

    Focus on what you want and go for it.

    James

  106. Hey Chris,

    I have to say that positive thinking does work, the thing that most people forget is the action part of it. Thinking of what you want and believing that you will get it should make you work harder to get it and in doing so will of course end up with you getting it.

    On the other hand if the people who say it doesn’t work have just been staring at pretty pictures of nice cars and houses without taking action they will get nowhere.

    I can’t remember where I saw it but it was about positive thinking saying if you put a glass of water on a table and believe and wish for a drink it will never happen. It is the action of picking up the glass that will get you the water.

    Focus on what you want and go for it.

    James

  107. So, what you are saying is, do something and it will be done, but if you have a good attitude about it, it will be done and you will have a good attitude about it?

    How very elementary. *yawn*

    Note from Chris: I allowed this obvious troll because I found it so funny – How does someone with a name like “IQ” totally miss the point of the article? LOL πŸ˜€

  108. So, what you are saying is, do something and it will be done, but if you have a good attitude about it, it will be done and you will have a good attitude about it?

    How very elementary. *yawn*

    Note from Chris: I allowed this obvious troll because I found it so funny – How does someone with a name like “IQ” totally miss the point of the article? LOL πŸ˜€

  109. I agree.
    There are no problems if you can get yourself to think positivly, but its much harder than most people think due to our various hang-ups,childhood programming, negative talk and experiences.
    The World could look a lot different if we worked on our thoughts more thoroughly.
    Every single thought has a consequence negative or positive,thatΒ΄s how we create our lives and the environment we live in.
    Most people haveΒ΄nt any idea that they are creating their lives, thatΒ΄s why itΒ΄s so difficult to change things.
    Become aware of what you are thinking is a great start.Even the smallest quickest thought is a positive or negative building block.

  110. I agree.
    There are no problems if you can get yourself to think positivly, but its much harder than most people think due to our various hang-ups,childhood programming, negative talk and experiences.
    The World could look a lot different if we worked on our thoughts more thoroughly.
    Every single thought has a consequence negative or positive,thatΒ΄s how we create our lives and the environment we live in.
    Most people haveΒ΄nt any idea that they are creating their lives, thatΒ΄s why itΒ΄s so difficult to change things.
    Become aware of what you are thinking is a great start.Even the smallest quickest thought is a positive or negative building block.