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Overcoming Your Own Constraints

Break Constraints

In a previous post I wrote about constraints and I promised in the comment area I would return to the concept. When looking to write about it I realized there were both internal and external constraints in business that I would need to address.

In this article I will talk about the constraints that begin with us, often the biggest constraints of all.

The Buck Stops With You

It’s easy to blame external factors when we are our own biggest enemy most of the time. We need to fix ourselves before trying to improve our systems.

If you don’t fix your own constraints first then you will find a way to sabotage your system, guaranteed.

I have seen this over and over, in big companies and single operator businesses.

Basic Personal Constraints

What do you need to be personally productive and successful?

  1. Clarity of purpose
  2. Knowledge
  3. Skills
  4. Ideas
  5. A plan
  6. Action
  7. Project/Time management
  8. Measurement against goals
  9. Optimization
  10. Motivation

Most of these things are obvious, you can learn and incorporate behaviors, and sources of information on the topics and coaches are easily obtainable.

Your Recipe for Success

I actually think success can be summed up in part by the great philosopher Wayne Gretzky:

“I skate to where the puck is going to be, not to where it has been.”

Know where your market/niche is going. Have a clear vision, then execute well. Everything else contributes or feeds into that success recipe.

Problem is, even people who hold all the ingredients find ways to sour their plans like dropping rotting cabbage of constraint into your success tiramisu.

Missing Something?

Check over the list again. Is it complete? Probably not, but a couple of items were excluded intentionally.

Did I miss off “money”? No, because you will find that if you have the above 10 items ticked off then there is usually someone with a higher net worth willing to fund you for a percentage. Of course a source of funding makes things easier, and it is much harder to start with zero, but I would still not put “net worth” as an internal constraint.

What about luck? There is not much point mentioning luck. Regardless of your beliefs, you are better off analyzing things you can practically influence.

29 Personal Constraint Demons

I’m not a life coach and I don’t play one on TV. I have worked with and observed a lot of business folks over the years though and I am a people-watcher. See if any of these personal constraints resonate with you:

  1. Analysis Paralysis – One I suffer with a great deal so I put it first just so you know we all have constraints to clear. I over-think. A lot.
  2. Waiting for the right time – It will never be the perfect time, just do something!
  3. Fear of commitment – It’s not just relationships people fear to commit to, it could be a deadline or even your own goals.
  4. (In)Decision Anxiety – Decisions make people afraid, and then having made the decision there are another set of emotional waves to contend with. Take small decisions, get practice and work up to the bigger ones.
  5. Low confidence – This can result in not breaking out of comfort zone, keeping you locked into your current situation, not risking opportunities or failing to open up to new people. You will find the more you do the more confidence you will have. Confidence is like a muscle, it grows stronger with exercise.
  6. Perfectionism – Nobody is perfect, but many people try to be. Be prepared to get things as good as you can get within the time and resources you are allowed.
  7. Sense of entitlement – The world doesn’t owe you a single thing. If you want something, deserve it.
  8. Jealousy – Related to the previous item, rather than looking at what everyone else has with greedy, coveting eyes, build your own success. You know you are a jealous type if you look at other people’s stats and feel bad.
  9. Over competitive – It surprises people sometimes how much success depends on cooperating with others, and it shocks me sometimes how some people do not believe in Win-Win situations. You can be a success without coming first or beating your enemies. Don’t make enemies – Forge alliances
  10. Imagination – If you don’t have imagination you have a big disadvantage. Either develop your own creativity or team with someone who has. Creativity is vital now more than ever.
  11. Laziness – This can be a boon or a bane. Laziness is an excellent quality in a programmer, because lazy programmers automate and find easy solutions, but a lazy person is unlikely to put in the effort when you most depend on them.
  12. Procrastination – A very common problem and overcoming it often comes down to taking small, decisive actions early and often.
  13. Defeat – Have you ever met someone who packs in at the first sign of problems? Or even gives up before they start because of all the problems they predict? Part of being a success is using defeat as a learning process, trying to route about potential failure, but most of all, not being afraid of it. If you do one thing for your kids, teach them self-esteem and to embrace problems as a chance to learn.
  14. Paranoia – Regardless of what you think, the world is probably not conspiring against you. And even if it is, it wouldn’t help to believe it.
  15. Cash control – I have worked with people who spend money like crazy without a moments thought, even when their companies were laying off staff at a scary rate. Someone needs to be a grown-up where money is concerned, if that can’t be you, partner with someone who can.
  16. Personality – Have you noticed the people with the most obnoxious personalities are often the people who are least willing to accept criticism? Yes, people should take you as you are and not try to change you, but at the same time it is worth moderating the more extreme or irritating habits, opinions or behaviors in order to just get along. Work on your communication skills, negotiation skills, and practice in speaking or social situations.
  17. Organization – If your desk and diary looks like the local landfill then you need to get organized or find someone to organize you.
  18. Blurred focus – Having a million opportunities or projects to juggle can be exciting but you need to focus on one thing at a time to give each task your best. Prioritize, and trim ruthlessly.
  19. Drowning in Information – In the information age it is easy to be lulled into thinking your problems stem from not enough information. One thing I think this century will tell us is information is wonderful, but too much is as bad as not enough. Balance learning with action.
  20. Burdens – Don’t let your responsibilities, important as they are, carry so much weight you have little time or energy for anything else.
  21. Distractions – Related to #20, if you are constantly distracted your tasks will take twice as long to complete. Turn off the phone and email, lock your door, if necessary.
  22. Isolation – Although in #21 I said lock your door, no person is an island, we need other people, at appropriate times!
  23. Vanity – If you care too much about what people think then you will get nowhere because you will be afraid of taking steps that impact your “image”. Be willing to make a public mess. Most of the successful people throughout history have goofed big and often!
  24. Ignorance – Unfortunately a lot of people who are ignorant are too ignorant to recognize it.
  25. Status quo – “Because it has always been done this way” is the very worst justification. Challenge the status quo and only keep that which demonstrably works.
  26. Power rush – Be very suspicious of anyone who pursues power, they are often dangerous. If you are looking to increase your control or power, look very deep to understand why. Partner with collaborators rather than control freaks.
  27. Management by spreadsheet – People are not numbers to move around on a spreadsheet. Look beyond digits and understand that you get the best out of people by treating them with humanity.
  28. Management by to-do list – Systems, unlike this list, rarely work in a 1, 2, 3 fashion. Work in parallel, see the dependencies and mitigate the risks.
  29. Focus on the negative – I left this last just to show that while my entire list is negative, it is best to turn negatives into positives! Look through this list, see if any might apply to you, then work on dissolving this constraint from your own life.

There will no doubt be more than 29 but to be honest, getting to 29 was depressing!

Dissolve Your Constraints

The process for removing personal constraints, or at least mitigating them, is as follows:

  1. Check your results – Are your results improving, meeting expectations, or under-performing?
  2. Look at your behavior – Observe what you do, why and how
  3. Discover constraint – Where are the bottlenecks, why to bust-ups occur, when do you let people down? where are the crises?
  4. Work on improving behavior or routing around constraint – Find coping strategies, or re-learning to take the problem away
  5. Go back to #1 and repeat

My Constraints

So you know how you might deal with constraints, here are a couple of mine.

As mentioned above, one of my constraints is over-thinking things. I am a day-dreamer, a deep thinker and a naturally cautious type. It’s only bad when it crosses a line, as with many of the things in the list, there are positive aspects along with the bad.

This constraint manifests as having a thousand books, bookmarks, mind maps, plans, and discussions, but not actually achieving much.

The way I overcame this was to balance my nature with:

  1. Project Management – I learned about project management, and put that learning into practice over and over
  2. Team work – I find others who are more action oriented
  3. Deadlines – Client work keeps me moving forward
  4. Self binding contracts – Tell other people what you are going to do and get them to hold you to it.
  5. Vigilance – Just being aware of a trait and looking out for it can help solve bad behavior

That is a biggie, and one I still battle with. My biggest ever constraint though is thanfully mostly contained, and started in my teens.

You might have heard or read me mention this before, but at around the time I was leaving school I was so shy I literally couldn’t order a Big Mac without blushing and falling over my words. I was extremely introverted. I knew I had to do something about it, especially if I was going to have any kind of career, even in relatively solitary pursuits of computing or illustration.

My solution was to learn about communication, body language, and so on. That solved the knowledge/theory side, but I had to find a way to put that into practice to move it from an intellectual to reality solution.

When people have a fear of spiders they can go to the zoo and hold a tarantula. Fear of flying is often overcome by special airline flights. I took a teaching course and started teaching classes at my local college. Thankfully it worked, and I can now stand in front of auditoriums and not need to wear sturdy brown trousers and bicycle clips!

Bottom Line

This stuff is hard work and requires an honest look at your own situation. Rather than taking it as yet another way to bring yourself down and give yourself a hard time, look at it as a golden opportunity to achieve more of what you want to in your life.

First step is to look in the mirror rather than blame external factors. Before you can deal with “out there”, fix the “in here”.

Over to You

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  1. Now this is a great article, not only for the realm of the web, but also for the soul – keep up the creativity even in difficult times. Wish I could remove all of my constraints as mentioned above. Did you write this about me? πŸ™‚

  2. Now this is a great article, not only for the realm of the web, but also for the soul – keep up the creativity even in difficult times. Wish I could remove all of my constraints as mentioned above. Did you write this about me? πŸ™‚

  3. Well said, Chris. Too many people blame external factors for what’s really all about them. They whine, they complain, they point fingers… Hey, where’s that mirror? Take a good look in that before assuming that it’s someone else’s fault. Most of the time, that fault all points back to you.

    My personal constraint was communication. I was born and raised in a culture that speaks bluntly, directly and passionately (and we all chink beers after, of course).

    Enter the rest of the world when I came online, and I realized quickly that most people aren’t able to handle that type of direct speech. I can’t change them, nor should I ask them to, so I had to change the way I communicate.

    Do I still speak directly? Always. That won’t change. But I have modified how I speak so that people consider me “straightforward” versus… well, whatever they used to consider me before. Plus, I also constantly work on how I communicate and the words I used to make sure that I’m not offending others by being too blunt.

    I hope. πŸ˜‰

  4. Well said, Chris. Too many people blame external factors for what’s really all about them. They whine, they complain, they point fingers… Hey, where’s that mirror? Take a good look in that before assuming that it’s someone else’s fault. Most of the time, that fault all points back to you.

    My personal constraint was communication. I was born and raised in a culture that speaks bluntly, directly and passionately (and we all chink beers after, of course).

    Enter the rest of the world when I came online, and I realized quickly that most people aren’t able to handle that type of direct speech. I can’t change them, nor should I ask them to, so I had to change the way I communicate.

    Do I still speak directly? Always. That won’t change. But I have modified how I speak so that people consider me “straightforward” versus… well, whatever they used to consider me before. Plus, I also constantly work on how I communicate and the words I used to make sure that I’m not offending others by being too blunt.

    I hope. πŸ˜‰

  5. @IDoBlogs – Hopefully there is a little something in there for everyone, in a nice way πŸ™‚

    @James – Well as I said to you before, I only work with people I like πŸ™‚

  6. @IDoBlogs – Hopefully there is a little something in there for everyone, in a nice way πŸ™‚

    @James – Well as I said to you before, I only work with people I like πŸ™‚

  7. This is an awesome post. Thanks Chris for being soooo comprehensive with the list of constraints and giving ideas to overcome them.

    Awesome!!

  8. This is an awesome post. Thanks Chris for being soooo comprehensive with the list of constraints and giving ideas to overcome them.

    Awesome!!

  9. Glad you like it, though I had to stop before I got myself down, I am sure there are double the amount in reality πŸ˜‰

  10. Glad you like it, though I had to stop before I got myself down, I am sure there are double the amount in reality πŸ˜‰

  11. After reading this article, i am feeling like a person who read madical book and assumed that he is the house of diseases and he got almost all symptoms of many diseases…God Help me…I have to learn project and time management.

  12. After reading this article, i am feeling like a person who read madical book and assumed that he is the house of diseases and he got almost all symptoms of many diseases…God Help me…I have to learn project and time management.

  13. Wonderful post. Definitely my favourite read this week.

    Stories are incredibly powerful and the story of how you overcame your biggest constraint was inspiring.

    As a self-employed copywriter/translator I think my biggest constraint is being a one man band. It’s not easy to be accountant, head of marketing, manager and general dog’s body when you’re trying to do all the other stuff too.

    That’s why social media is so important for someone like me as it helps me connect with people, grow my business and help others define their own business story.

    In spite of the economic downturn, the energy in the social media crowd gives me confidence that together, those of us working over the web, will ultimately thrive.

  14. Wonderful post. Definitely my favourite read this week.

    Stories are incredibly powerful and the story of how you overcame your biggest constraint was inspiring.

    As a self-employed copywriter/translator I think my biggest constraint is being a one man band. It’s not easy to be accountant, head of marketing, manager and general dog’s body when you’re trying to do all the other stuff too.

    That’s why social media is so important for someone like me as it helps me connect with people, grow my business and help others define their own business story.

    In spite of the economic downturn, the energy in the social media crowd gives me confidence that together, those of us working over the web, will ultimately thrive.

  15. I like that you have a ‘bottom line’
    Great post and well worth the read

  16. I like that you have a ‘bottom line’
    Great post and well worth the read

  17. I resonate most with “blurred focus” and “drowning in information.” As a freelance copywriter, I juggle many projects simultaneously… and I think consuming information is part of my job description. πŸ˜‰

    Simply being aware goes a long way. A couple times a year, I weed out my bookshelves and donate books to the library. Helps to keep information from overwhelming me.

  18. I resonate most with “blurred focus” and “drowning in information.” As a freelance copywriter, I juggle many projects simultaneously… and I think consuming information is part of my job description. πŸ˜‰

    Simply being aware goes a long way. A couple times a year, I weed out my bookshelves and donate books to the library. Helps to keep information from overwhelming me.

  19. My favorite Gretzky quote is “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. πŸ™‚ Who would have thought we’d be quoting a guy like him?

    This is a wonderful post Chris.

  20. My favorite Gretzky quote is “you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. πŸ™‚ Who would have thought we’d be quoting a guy like him?

    This is a wonderful post Chris.

  21. I’m right there with my primary constraints from your list being Fear of Commitment and Blurred Focus. I’ve found shortening my vision and taking small dogged steps helps a great deal to sharpen my focus. Accepting shorter term commissions, bursts of activity and getting through them swiftly and competently has helped me face some of my commitment issues.

    As you’ve noticed with your own primary constraints these are issues we continue to work on every single day, it gets easier and maybe, with hard work and an inner integrity to ourselves we’ll eventually get beyond these constraints and can begin to deal with other ones. πŸ˜‰

    I’ve found internal constraints are usually a primary block in all sorts of life related action, not just business. Getting beyond these blocks involves being honest with yourself and developing a willpower to persevere through the challenges you put in your own path. Every step in your life comes about because of the choices you make. That means we are all in complete control about the next step we take, and the next.

    Whatever difficulties may be in the external we are in command of our choices, how we deal with those external issues are based on how we choose to respond to our internal constraints.

  22. I’m right there with my primary constraints from your list being Fear of Commitment and Blurred Focus. I’ve found shortening my vision and taking small dogged steps helps a great deal to sharpen my focus. Accepting shorter term commissions, bursts of activity and getting through them swiftly and competently has helped me face some of my commitment issues.

    As you’ve noticed with your own primary constraints these are issues we continue to work on every single day, it gets easier and maybe, with hard work and an inner integrity to ourselves we’ll eventually get beyond these constraints and can begin to deal with other ones. πŸ˜‰

    I’ve found internal constraints are usually a primary block in all sorts of life related action, not just business. Getting beyond these blocks involves being honest with yourself and developing a willpower to persevere through the challenges you put in your own path. Every step in your life comes about because of the choices you make. That means we are all in complete control about the next step we take, and the next.

    Whatever difficulties may be in the external we are in command of our choices, how we deal with those external issues are based on how we choose to respond to our internal constraints.

  23. Friggin’ great post Chris! Having dozens of personality profiles for various employment opportunities in my career I started to see a pattern:), so I thought it would be fun to start a bit of a game with your post, everyone list your top 5 afflictions. Here are mine in order:

    1. Over competitive-Working to overcome this as we speak!
    2. Cash control-Micky Rourke said it best; I am as rich as my next movie! πŸ˜‰
    3. Organization-I don’t vlog because I don’t want people to see my office!
    4. Drowning in information-How many %$*#) RSS feeds do I have?
    5. Burdens-God should have made days longer! πŸ™‚

    Anyway, again a fantastic post Chris!

  24. Friggin’ great post Chris! Having dozens of personality profiles for various employment opportunities in my career I started to see a pattern:), so I thought it would be fun to start a bit of a game with your post, everyone list your top 5 afflictions. Here are mine in order:

    1. Over competitive-Working to overcome this as we speak!
    2. Cash control-Micky Rourke said it best; I am as rich as my next movie! πŸ˜‰
    3. Organization-I don’t vlog because I don’t want people to see my office!
    4. Drowning in information-How many %$*#) RSS feeds do I have?
    5. Burdens-God should have made days longer! πŸ™‚

    Anyway, again a fantastic post Chris!

  25. Oh man, how can make excuses if you keep brushing them aside?

    Excellent article, I think I may print it out for the wall.

  26. Oh man, how can make excuses if you keep brushing them aside?

    Excellent article, I think I may print it out for the wall.

  27. Nice work Chris, and thanks for once again being incredibly timely with your post. Cheers, LA

  28. Nice work Chris, and thanks for once again being incredibly timely with your post. Cheers, LA

  29. Yes, excellent post.

    1. Removing the clutter, shutting down stuff to focus on one step at a time is good.

    2. Trying to stop multi-tasking when I don’t need to.

    3. Keeping focused on phase one work instead of injecting junk that doesn’t need to be done.

  30. Yes, excellent post.

    1. Removing the clutter, shutting down stuff to focus on one step at a time is good.

    2. Trying to stop multi-tasking when I don’t need to.

    3. Keeping focused on phase one work instead of injecting junk that doesn’t need to be done.

  31. Man, you should’ve had my picture next to about four of those lol. I saw myself in Blurred Focus which is probably my biggest – everything usually feels important. Analysis Paralysis sometimes. Perfectionism is totally me and I could use some better organization. I work best when I’m totally, anally organized. If I don’t go whole hog on an organizational system, I usually fail at it.

    Many bloggers would have stopped at 29 and said, “Do you see yourself in any of these?” and that would have been the article. I love that you gave steps for improvement afterwards. That was the frosting on the cake!

    Thanks for a great article. I subscribed to your feed and got your book. Look forward to giving it a read.

  32. Man, you should’ve had my picture next to about four of those lol. I saw myself in Blurred Focus which is probably my biggest – everything usually feels important. Analysis Paralysis sometimes. Perfectionism is totally me and I could use some better organization. I work best when I’m totally, anally organized. If I don’t go whole hog on an organizational system, I usually fail at it.

    Many bloggers would have stopped at 29 and said, “Do you see yourself in any of these?” and that would have been the article. I love that you gave steps for improvement afterwards. That was the frosting on the cake!

    Thanks for a great article. I subscribed to your feed and got your book. Look forward to giving it a read.

  33. Very inspiring post, Chris! I’m very similar in personality to you, including the shyness, which I also have overcome to some extent, but not completely.
    Been pushing myself to shoot a vid of myself to put on youtube but wow, so much resistance when it comes to it! Would also like to be speaking in front of community college, chamber of commerce, etc sometime very soon. Again, still quite a bit of constraint to overcome. I guess practicing very small steps at a time to build confidence may do the trick.
    Thanks for laying it all out so clearly.

  34. Very inspiring post, Chris! I’m very similar in personality to you, including the shyness, which I also have overcome to some extent, but not completely.
    Been pushing myself to shoot a vid of myself to put on youtube but wow, so much resistance when it comes to it! Would also like to be speaking in front of community college, chamber of commerce, etc sometime very soon. Again, still quite a bit of constraint to overcome. I guess practicing very small steps at a time to build confidence may do the trick.
    Thanks for laying it all out so clearly.

  35. Thanks Chris, great post and very comprehensive. Taking time to get to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, is one of the most valuable things you can do for your career and your business. When I left college and was very much in ‘ introverted poet ‘ mode, and adopted a similar solution to you — although in my case I trained as a therapist rather than a teacher. Focusing on other people and their needs was a great antidote to all that introspective thinking!

    Another good way of overcoming constraints is to partner with people who have different and complementary strengths to you, that way everyone spends most of their time doing what they do best, with maximum impact.

  36. Thanks Chris, great post and very comprehensive. Taking time to get to know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, is one of the most valuable things you can do for your career and your business. When I left college and was very much in ‘ introverted poet ‘ mode, and adopted a similar solution to you — although in my case I trained as a therapist rather than a teacher. Focusing on other people and their needs was a great antidote to all that introspective thinking!

    Another good way of overcoming constraints is to partner with people who have different and complementary strengths to you, that way everyone spends most of their time doing what they do best, with maximum impact.

  37. Great article, Chris. I’m definitely one of those over-analyzers. My friends call me the ‘Gonna Do’. You hit home when you said “This constraint manifests as having a thousand books, bookmarks, mind maps, plans, and discussions, but not actually achieving much.” As I sit here I have opened beside me your ‘ProBlogger’ book along with three other how-to’s that I purchased today. Also, across from me is my leaning tower of knowledge – about a couple dozen more recently read books, all dogged-eared and bookmarked and stacked sky high (along with my hopes and dreams).

    I have also downloaded many productivity tools, including mind-mapping, to-d organizers, etc software.

    I need to break away from the inertia of this endless ‘preparing-to-do’ loop that I am in. I need to replace it with a ‘do-and-tweak’ loop mindset.

    Your advice has been immensely helpful. Thanks.

  38. Great article, Chris. I’m definitely one of those over-analyzers. My friends call me the ‘Gonna Do’. You hit home when you said “This constraint manifests as having a thousand books, bookmarks, mind maps, plans, and discussions, but not actually achieving much.” As I sit here I have opened beside me your ‘ProBlogger’ book along with three other how-to’s that I purchased today. Also, across from me is my leaning tower of knowledge – about a couple dozen more recently read books, all dogged-eared and bookmarked and stacked sky high (along with my hopes and dreams).

    I have also downloaded many productivity tools, including mind-mapping, to-d organizers, etc software.

    I need to break away from the inertia of this endless ‘preparing-to-do’ loop that I am in. I need to replace it with a ‘do-and-tweak’ loop mindset.

    Your advice has been immensely helpful. Thanks.

  39. Adrian Paduraru says:

    Great post indeed!

  40. Great post indeed!

  41. I’m glad you mentioned you partnered with people more action-oriented than you. I have been trying to do that fo’ever, and I’m wondering if you have any tips on luring action-y people into your trap — I mean, into a partnership or collaboration of some sort πŸ˜‰

  42. I’m glad you mentioned you partnered with people more action-oriented than you. I have been trying to do that fo’ever, and I’m wondering if you have any tips on luring action-y people into your trap — I mean, into a partnership or collaboration of some sort πŸ˜‰

  43. Hi Chris, I just wanted to give some props to your blog. I am new as of yesterday in the blogosphere. I was surfing last week in search of tips, inspiration, etc and landed on your site… have read 3 of your posts so far and will keep coming back! Thanks!

  44. Hi Chris, I just wanted to give some props to your blog. I am new as of yesterday in the blogosphere. I was surfing last week in search of tips, inspiration, etc and landed on your site… have read 3 of your posts so far and will keep coming back! Thanks!

  45. Wow. That was pretty thorough, and touched on a few points I had never even thought of.
    And I have definitely been guilty of #9!

    Just found out about your site and will be back for more. Some really useful info for a blogger like myself, here!

  46. Wow. That was pretty thorough, and touched on a few points I had never even thought of.
    And I have definitely been guilty of #9!

    Just found out about your site and will be back for more. Some really useful info for a blogger like myself, here!

  47. Excellent post, I’m wondering how did you even come up with that long list of “personal constraint demons” – it must’ve taken you quite some time!

    I had a question…I didn’t quite understand the management by to-do lists point where you seem to be advocating that it’s not a great system to follow. I would think that’s a good system to follow, making it easier to know the things that need to be done and then striking them off once done. However, it’s also another thing to really follow through with maintaining those lists on a regular basis. Anyway, what I wanted to know, is are you suggesting another method of managing the umpteen number of things that we have to do and of the never-ending things that keep getting added to our never-ending lists.

  48. Excellent post, I’m wondering how did you even come up with that long list of “personal constraint demons” – it must’ve taken you quite some time!

    I had a question…I didn’t quite understand the management by to-do lists point where you seem to be advocating that it’s not a great system to follow. I would think that’s a good system to follow, making it easier to know the things that need to be done and then striking them off once done. However, it’s also another thing to really follow through with maintaining those lists on a regular basis. Anyway, what I wanted to know, is are you suggesting another method of managing the umpteen number of things that we have to do and of the never-ending things that keep getting added to our never-ending lists.