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Follow the Leader or Forge Your Own Path?

Which path?There are so many sources of conflicting advice it is difficult to know who to listen to. Each new piece of advice can be as convincing as the one that came before it. What should you do?

How do you choose who to listen to?

Do you take the word of

  • the most influential,
  • the most popular,
  • the most convincing,
  • the loudest,
  • the most confident,
  • or maybe what they perceive to be the safest.

As a person who dishes out daily doses of advice I am as guilty as anyone out there who tries to offer opinions of what you “should” do.

The fact is, at worst people do not have any idea what will work for you, and at best they can only rely on their own experience. Certainly I give you the benefit of what I have learned through my work, but you still have to work out what will work for you.

I am still learning, things still take me by surprise. You may have read me say before, I am of the opinion you can learn something from every person you meet. Your job is to not blindly accept what you are told but collate it, cogitate on it and apply it in your own unique way.

Work out the approaches that suit you best, that fit what you are trying to achieve and how. Which stories resonate with you, and enthuse you, separate out those that leave you cold.

You can never take the same journey twice, your journey is yours and yours alone, but you can learn about possible pot holes and beauty trails from people who have traveled a similar path before you.

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  1. I was actually thinking about that today. There are so many blogs around that preach so much advice, but I really wonder how many are qualified to give advice on the topics.

  2. I was actually thinking about that today. There are so many blogs around that preach so much advice, but I really wonder how many are qualified to give advice on the topics.

  3. About half a year ago, I stopped listening to whoever was hot at the moment or whoever banged out advice the most. I started thinking critically, stepping back to rely on my own experiences in life and the lessons I’d learned. And I share that experience now with others.

    I don’t follow. I don’t lead. I want to offer something for people to think over, perhaps provide a different view to provoke change and inspiration.

    Has it worked? Yes. I’ve had many people say that I’ve opened up paths to new thoughts – their own thoughts – by not only giving them my suggestions based on strong experience but by providing thought-provoking content that helps them see their lives in a new light.

    I gotta say… it’s kinda cool to watch people change. 🙂

  4. About half a year ago, I stopped listening to whoever was hot at the moment or whoever banged out advice the most. I started thinking critically, stepping back to rely on my own experiences in life and the lessons I’d learned. And I share that experience now with others.

    I don’t follow. I don’t lead. I want to offer something for people to think over, perhaps provide a different view to provoke change and inspiration.

    Has it worked? Yes. I’ve had many people say that I’ve opened up paths to new thoughts – their own thoughts – by not only giving them my suggestions based on strong experience but by providing thought-provoking content that helps them see their lives in a new light.

    I gotta say… it’s kinda cool to watch people change. 🙂

  5. Excellent post. I think it is good to put yourself into everything you do. However, I can say from experience that when you do follow a system that someone else has used successfully it can lead to quicker success. If you decide to only follow half of the system, it often leads to failure and/or more struggling.

    That has been my experience.

  6. Excellent post. I think it is good to put yourself into everything you do. However, I can say from experience that when you do follow a system that someone else has used successfully it can lead to quicker success. If you decide to only follow half of the system, it often leads to failure and/or more struggling.

    That has been my experience.

  7. Great post, Chris. I am not a blind follower, but at my age I realize that the trail blazers have good advice to offer. The important thing is to sift through it and find out what really can apply to one’s own life and circumstances. I may not try to reinvent the wheel, but I might try to add some spokes or smooth out the surface a bit!

  8. Great post, Chris. I am not a blind follower, but at my age I realize that the trail blazers have good advice to offer. The important thing is to sift through it and find out what really can apply to one’s own life and circumstances. I may not try to reinvent the wheel, but I might try to add some spokes or smooth out the surface a bit!

  9. It is nice to see someone who “dishes out daily doses of advice” admit that they don’t know what I should do.

  10. It is nice to see someone who “dishes out daily doses of advice” admit that they don’t know what I should do.

  11. Part of being successful is knowing what advice to follow and how to personalize it. People who simply follow usually don’t end up going to far.

  12. Part of being successful is knowing what advice to follow and how to personalize it. People who simply follow usually don’t end up going to far.