Comments on: Defeating Self-Limiting Thoughts http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/ the business of blogging and new media Sat, 20 Mar 2010 15:23:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Alex Ion http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-5043 Alex Ion Mon, 27 Aug 2007 13:00:14 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-5043 Well experience does add to the problem but one should always know that something that happened before can be changed the next time it happens. I remember Steve Olson commenting that every problems start from money and sex. Imagine a guy that wasn't a very good performer last week and is facing sex again this week. Last week it may have been just an accident, but the human mind is afraid of such things so he could be on the road of consolidating his problem (going deeper)if he won't think positive. Great article! Well experience does add to the problem but one should always know that something that happened before can be changed the next time it happens.

I remember Steve Olson commenting that every problems start from money and sex. Imagine a guy that wasn’t a very good performer last week and is facing sex again this week. Last week it may have been just an accident, but the human mind is afraid of such things so he could be on the road of consolidating his problem (going deeper)if he won’t think positive.

Great article!

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4971 Chris Garrett Wed, 22 Aug 2007 12:06:05 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4971 Good point, it can lead to "I always ..." thoughts even when nothing of the sort is true! Good point, it can lead to “I always …” thoughts even when nothing of the sort is true!

]]> By: Traveller http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4970 Traveller Wed, 22 Aug 2007 11:58:52 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4970 Great post! Unfortunately experience can actually add to this problem. Failures in the past can limit you, because you "know" that won't work, even in a different situation. Many innovations are driven by the young only because they haven't failed yet and therefore take more risks, and are more certain in their mind of success. Great post! Unfortunately experience can actually add to this problem. Failures in the past can limit you, because you “know” that won’t work, even in a different situation. Many innovations are driven by the young only because they haven’t failed yet and therefore take more risks, and are more certain in their mind of success.

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4969 Chris Garrett Wed, 22 Aug 2007 11:41:54 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4969 @James - I think as humans we are built and trained to look for downsides, dangers, risks, so we focus so much on "avoidance" rather than the good stuff. We have to master our own inner critic :) @SageRave - Yup, there are people who have the brilliant ability to hold self belief no matter what, the rest of us have to work at it :) @Terra - Sounds like a great house to live in :) @James – I think as humans we are built and trained to look for downsides, dangers, risks, so we focus so much on “avoidance” rather than the good stuff. We have to master our own inner critic :)

@SageRave – Yup, there are people who have the brilliant ability to hold self belief no matter what, the rest of us have to work at it :)

@Terra – Sounds like a great house to live in :)

]]> By: Terra Andersen http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4956 Terra Andersen Wed, 22 Aug 2007 03:53:59 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4956 <p>This is so true. We try to never say "can't" in our house. Luckily we are all positive people, so it's easy to stay that way. *=)</p> <p>Good post!</p> <p>-Terra<br /> This is so true. We try to never say “can’t” in our house. Luckily we are all positive people, so it’s easy to stay that way. *=)

Good post!

-Terra

]]> By: SageRave http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4955 SageRave Wed, 22 Aug 2007 02:39:02 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4955 This is a constant struggle, especially since our society thrives on teaching people to be unreasonable with themselves. Good article! This is a constant struggle, especially since our society thrives on teaching people to be unreasonable with themselves.

Good article!

]]> By: James http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4952 James Tue, 21 Aug 2007 20:09:21 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4952 Chris, I love the way you said "Consider each negative as a hand-brake, or at worse as sabotage." I agree completely. I think this is so true with almost anything we ever do. In my own experience I have discovered it is far easier to see the negatives rather than the positives. While I think we should have realistic thoughts, I do not think anything is truly impossible. Anyways great post, glad to see that I am not the only one that deals with these struggles. Chris,

I love the way you said “Consider each negative as a hand-brake, or at worse as sabotage.” I agree completely.
I think this is so true with almost anything we ever do. In my own experience I have discovered it is far easier to see the negatives rather than the positives. While I think we should have realistic thoughts, I do not think anything is truly impossible.
Anyways great post, glad to see that I am not the only one that deals with these struggles.

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4949 Chris Garrett Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:32:41 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4949 @Rajesh - I am fortunate that my wife tends to be able to keep me positive even when I am determined to be miserable ;) @Jen - Yeah it is easy to think everyone else has a much better handle on life, the truth is we all have brain burps once in a while (or more often in my case, heh) @LaurenMarie - Ah that's easy then, say to yourself what you would say to someone else :D @Rajesh – I am fortunate that my wife tends to be able to keep me positive even when I am determined to be miserable ;)

@Jen – Yeah it is easy to think everyone else has a much better handle on life, the truth is we all have brain burps once in a while (or more often in my case, heh)

@LaurenMarie – Ah that’s easy then, say to yourself what you would say to someone else :D

]]> By: LaurenMarie - Creative Curio http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4948 LaurenMarie - Creative Curio Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:25:06 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4948 So strange that just admitting the problem is there makes it easier to deal with. It also helps to know I'm not alone :) I agree with Jen, we think everyone but us has it figured out. In terms of how I speak to others, I find it easy to encourage everyone except myself! So strange that just admitting the problem is there makes it easier to deal with. It also helps to know I’m not alone :) I agree with Jen, we think everyone but us has it figured out.

In terms of how I speak to others, I find it easy to encourage everyone except myself!

]]> By: Jen / domestika http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4946 Jen / domestika Tue, 21 Aug 2007 14:11:36 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4946 Get out of my brain, Chris! ;) Truth be told, I think that most of us are half-convinced that everyone else around us is brimming with the bright self-confidence that they show on the surface...yet, this kind of self-doubt and self-sabotage are probably more the norm. Get out of my brain, Chris! ;)

Truth be told, I think that most of us are half-convinced that everyone else around us is brimming with the bright self-confidence that they show on the surface…yet, this kind of self-doubt and self-sabotage are probably more the norm.

]]> By: Rajesh Shakya http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4944 Rajesh Shakya Tue, 21 Aug 2007 12:45:13 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4944 Chris, Very good post. As many of you, I have also lived through this. When you are living through such negative mental state, it's hard to come out from that until someone convince your or you yourself get impressed with something positive. I read many personal development books from well known Personal development gurus to clean the negative vibes inside me. Thanks to those gurus. Rajesh Shakya Chris,
Very good post. As many of you, I have also lived through this. When you are living through such negative mental state, it’s hard to come out from that until someone convince your or you yourself get impressed with something positive. I read many personal development books from well known Personal development gurus to clean the negative vibes inside me. Thanks to those gurus.

Rajesh Shakya

]]> By: Chris Garrett http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4939 Chris Garrett Tue, 21 Aug 2007 11:59:19 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4939 <blockquote>When I start to have negative thoughts that I can't do something I have to remind myself that when I do the things I love the most important thing is the desire to do it and willingness to try.</blockquote>Exactly, we have to really try and not allow the fear, doubts, and a lifetime of collected criticisms to stop us before we even start :)

When I start to have negative thoughts that I can’t do something I have to remind myself that when I do the things I love the most important thing is the desire to do it and willingness to try.

Exactly, we have to really try and not allow the fear, doubts, and a lifetime of collected criticisms to stop us before we even start :)

]]> By: Patrick http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4937 Patrick Tue, 21 Aug 2007 11:53:08 +0000 http://www.chrisg.com/defeating-self-limiting-thoughts/#comment-4937 This is something I have struggled with more often than I would like to admit. Another significant area of negative input I see on a frequent basis is from our culture. I grew up in a family where most people took pride in working for others and "being a good employee" but the option of being my own boss was never seriously presented to me as I was growing up. In recent years however I was burned one too many times by working for someone else and left in the scary world of unemployment. Now I am my own boss and I am thankful I have an encouraging wife who is there to constantly give me the good suggestions. Working for myself I am in a constant state of thinking about innovation and how to compete in a positive way. At one time I thought fear of technology was a generational thing but surprisingly I am seeing people of all ages tell me I must be a "genius" because I could do something simple as send an attachment or create a basic spreadsheet. I know we all have different skills but it gets frustrating trying to work with others who basically turn off their brains when they heard words like technology, computers, etc. When I start to have negative thoughts that I can't do something I have to remind myself that when I do the things I love the most important thing is the desire to do it and willingness to try. This is something I have struggled with more often than I would like to admit. Another significant area of negative input I see on a frequent basis is from our culture.

I grew up in a family where most people took pride in working for others and “being a good employee” but the option of being my own boss was never seriously presented to me as I was growing up. In recent years however I was burned one too many times by working for someone else and left in the scary world of unemployment. Now I am my own boss and I am thankful I have an encouraging wife who is there to constantly give me the good suggestions. Working for myself I am in a constant state of thinking about innovation and how to compete in a positive way.

At one time I thought fear of technology was a generational thing but surprisingly I am seeing people of all ages tell me I must be a “genius” because I could do something simple as send an attachment or create a basic spreadsheet. I know we all have different skills but it gets frustrating trying to work with others who basically turn off their brains when they heard words like technology, computers, etc.

When I start to have negative thoughts that I can’t do something I have to remind myself that when I do the things I love the most important thing is the desire to do it and willingness to try.

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