Where do I find time? I don't always right away, but we do what we can, right?

Chris, you are a true inspiration. I am in awe to see you taking commenters so seriously and responding to as many as you can. You show you care. Where do you find the time to do it?

Chris, you are a true inspiration. I am in awe to see you taking commenters so seriously and responding to as many as you can. You show you care. Where do you find the time to do it?

Although I’ve found listening to Jack’s Success Principles and telling myself I’m she-woman helps tremendously as I toil. ;D Hmnn…maybe that’d work in my biz too…

C

Although I’ve found listening to Jack’s Success Principles and telling myself I’m she-woman helps tremendously as I toil. ;D Hmnn…maybe that’d work in my biz too…

C

@Richard – It happens to us all I think. If I obsessed about what Brian Clark and Darren Rowse achieved then I would have to sit in a corner sucking my thumb We have to realize at some point that what we do and how we do it has to suit us, and therefore the results we get are going to be unique and THAT IS OK

@Peggy – Yup, I would say you are hugely successful by my definition too. You do stuff you want to do and are happy doing it – success

@BIZZNURSE – Yeah failure to me is about stopping trying rather than the results you get from your “experiments”

@Dave – I am sure it will come too, keep at it

@Cori – Exactly, what the other folks are doing shows what is possible but then you have to look at your own goals and progress. It’s like at the gym, I try to not look at the other folks weight lifting and figures otherwise I would find it very demotivating being surrounded by supermen

@Clement – I think most of us have some self sabotage, even the most successful on the face of it. It amazes me sometimes what we see and hear at conferences for example, we are all human and subject to the frailties that are built in to that. Recognising the source and symptoms though really helps.

@Graham – True, but I think the key is what you do with that instinct and that information. Encouragement to do better and raise the bar is good, self-defeat and a big ol’ downer, not so good

@Lynda – Totally, when I look back just 10 years I am a completely different situation, almost a different person. I am sure it is the same for everyone. It’s just we see others and think they are doing more, better, faster, more fun, whatever, and it takes the shine off, when in fact we should be happy

@Richard – It happens to us all I think. If I obsessed about what Brian Clark and Darren Rowse achieved then I would have to sit in a corner sucking my thumb We have to realize at some point that what we do and how we do it has to suit us, and therefore the results we get are going to be unique and THAT IS OK

@Peggy – Yup, I would say you are hugely successful by my definition too. You do stuff you want to do and are happy doing it – success

@BIZZNURSE – Yeah failure to me is about stopping trying rather than the results you get from your “experiments”

@Dave – I am sure it will come too, keep at it

@Cori – Exactly, what the other folks are doing shows what is possible but then you have to look at your own goals and progress. It’s like at the gym, I try to not look at the other folks weight lifting and figures otherwise I would find it very demotivating being surrounded by supermen

@Clement – I think most of us have some self sabotage, even the most successful on the face of it. It amazes me sometimes what we see and hear at conferences for example, we are all human and subject to the frailties that are built in to that. Recognising the source and symptoms though really helps.

@Graham – True, but I think the key is what you do with that instinct and that information. Encouragement to do better and raise the bar is good, self-defeat and a big ol’ downer, not so good

@Lynda – Totally, when I look back just 10 years I am a completely different situation, almost a different person. I am sure it is the same for everyone. It’s just we see others and think they are doing more, better, faster, more fun, whatever, and it takes the shine off, when in fact we should be happy

None of those give us “numbers” that add up right, plus they often make us feel like losers—when we may actually be heroes considering where we began. Thank you, thank you for introducing this note of good sense!

None of those give us “numbers” that add up right, plus they often make us feel like losers—when we may actually be heroes considering where we began. Thank you, thank you for introducing this note of good sense!

The problem is comparisons are a powerful human motivator. Survival of any species – humans included – depends upon competitiveness and so comparing our performance to others is somewhat inbuilt.

In the past, prior to the Internet, this was more difficult for businesses because much information was hidden, or only available at cost. One of the disadvantages of the Internet from a business perspective is the readily available measure of comparison and the public nature of what everyone does.

The result is that combined with the natural human motivation to compare and you end up with a recipe for online businesses to spend ever more time on worrying about how they are doing up against their competitors.

It may be logical, sensible and brilliant advice to concentrate on our own performance, but the online comparison tools, the public nature of online business and the inbuilt motivation to compare means that many business owners will find it difficult to take up your suggestion. And that’s sad.

The problem is comparisons are a powerful human motivator. Survival of any species – humans included – depends upon competitiveness and so comparing our performance to others is somewhat inbuilt.

In the past, prior to the Internet, this was more difficult for businesses because much information was hidden, or only available at cost. One of the disadvantages of the Internet from a business perspective is the readily available measure of comparison and the public nature of what everyone does.

The result is that combined with the natural human motivation to compare and you end up with a recipe for online businesses to spend ever more time on worrying about how they are doing up against their competitors.

It may be logical, sensible and brilliant advice to concentrate on our own performance, but the online comparison tools, the public nature of online business and the inbuilt motivation to compare means that many business owners will find it difficult to take up your suggestion. And that’s sad.

My friend is currently in Bali for a “Date with Destiny” Tony Robbins and it got me revisiting his CD’s in my car – Personal Power.

In them, Tony touches on the subject of self-sabotage and feeling like you’re not getting what you subconsciously feel you deserve.

I can totally relate to that. He says that when you get more than what you think you deserve, you need to pull yourself back into sync with that paradigm so that you can be consistent! Consistency is apparently one of the things we all need in life…

So, having said that… this year has been amazing – I’ve started to forge relationships with people high up in the industries I’m in, and to start getting in business that I’m just simply not used to.

To be completely honest, it all made me feel a little out of my league.

So I started to … guess what ? Yep, sabotage myself. And it’s been something that has been fleeting in and out of my life for well over three years now – albeit it’s definitely a lot better than it used to be.

So to conclude – Thank You for resonating with me on this – it’s really given my day a boost!

My friend is currently in Bali for a “Date with Destiny” Tony Robbins and it got me revisiting his CD’s in my car – Personal Power.

In them, Tony touches on the subject of self-sabotage and feeling like you’re not getting what you subconsciously feel you deserve.

I can totally relate to that. He says that when you get more than what you think you deserve, you need to pull yourself back into sync with that paradigm so that you can be consistent! Consistency is apparently one of the things we all need in life…

So, having said that… this year has been amazing – I’ve started to forge relationships with people high up in the industries I’m in, and to start getting in business that I’m just simply not used to.

To be completely honest, it all made me feel a little out of my league.

So I started to … guess what ? Yep, sabotage myself. And it’s been something that has been fleeting in and out of my life for well over three years now – albeit it’s definitely a lot better than it used to be.

So to conclude – Thank You for resonating with me on this – it’s really given my day a boost!

If the guy down the street is making 10 grand a month doing the exact same line of work as you… so what? Feel free to try and learn a little something to increase your own results, but don’t constantly compare yourself or beat yourself up if you’re not there yet. What matters is being happy and profitable, exactly where you are, and constantly working on your growth, both business and personal.

Warm regards,
C

If the guy down the street is making 10 grand a month doing the exact same line of work as you… so what? Feel free to try and learn a little something to increase your own results, but don’t constantly compare yourself or beat yourself up if you’re not there yet. What matters is being happy and profitable, exactly where you are, and constantly working on your growth, both business and personal.

Warm regards,
C

The “build your website” arena is a tough one to compete in. I’ve been working at it full time for over a year, and haven’t made much progress, despite actually having the chops to deal with the technical side in a lot of detail (I can write code), and having the willingness, time and capability to instruct people on 1 to 1 or on a very small group basis. Still working on getting traction. I’m sure it will come in time.

In any case, good fortune, I’m sure you’ll be able to come out of the gate fast and large once you tune it exactly right.

The “build your website” arena is a tough one to compete in. I’ve been working at it full time for over a year, and haven’t made much progress, despite actually having the chops to deal with the technical side in a lot of detail (I can write code), and having the willingness, time and capability to instruct people on 1 to 1 or on a very small group basis. Still working on getting traction. I’m sure it will come in time.

In any case, good fortune, I’m sure you’ll be able to come out of the gate fast and large once you tune it exactly right.