When I answer the occasional critic, I wish I did it half as well as you just have without saying a word. All class.

Regards,

Kelly

When I answer the occasional critic, I wish I did it half as well as you just have without saying a word. All class.

Regards,

Kelly

@jonson – You might well be right, but I think we have to keep aware of the feedback we are getting good and bad. It’s not about trying to please everyone, but it is sometimes hard to know when we are still getting praise that in fact we are going off track.

@Chris – Indeed, I often say if some people do not hate what you do you are not trying hard enough

@The Masked Millionaire – There are so many venues for feedback now it is not always being around a while that draws the attention. One individual on Twitter hates everything social media stands for, so mention social media or certain conventions and the individual will go on a 10 tweet tirade

@LA – Excellent quote!

@Michael – True, I much prefer “feedback” than “enemies” though

@James – I agree, and as I say above, feedback is valuable whatever form it takes. We have to work out when it is appropriate to step into a criticism situation. Early is better, once a certain time has passed the original tone can be lost and people join in for sport. There are times when it is best to leave be, especially if you get a sense there are people watching who smell blood. As I mention in another comment, one of the situations recently has led me to block a well-known critical someone on Twitter, even though I had attempted to reply using various approaches over and over. They have moved on to attack others, but thankfully my time is freed up for constructive things. At some point you have to move on and not spend your energy on something that will only draw out a discussion with no hope of positive outcome.

@jonson – You might well be right, but I think we have to keep aware of the feedback we are getting good and bad. It’s not about trying to please everyone, but it is sometimes hard to know when we are still getting praise that in fact we are going off track.

@Chris – Indeed, I often say if some people do not hate what you do you are not trying hard enough

@The Masked Millionaire – There are so many venues for feedback now it is not always being around a while that draws the attention. One individual on Twitter hates everything social media stands for, so mention social media or certain conventions and the individual will go on a 10 tweet tirade

@LA – Excellent quote!

@Michael – True, I much prefer “feedback” than “enemies” though

@James – I agree, and as I say above, feedback is valuable whatever form it takes. We have to work out when it is appropriate to step into a criticism situation. Early is better, once a certain time has passed the original tone can be lost and people join in for sport. There are times when it is best to leave be, especially if you get a sense there are people watching who smell blood. As I mention in another comment, one of the situations recently has led me to block a well-known critical someone on Twitter, even though I had attempted to reply using various approaches over and over. They have moved on to attack others, but thankfully my time is freed up for constructive things. At some point you have to move on and not spend your energy on something that will only draw out a discussion with no hope of positive outcome.

Criticism without backup is empty flaming. Criticism with backup is simply a difference in views.

When I take a stand on something or voice my opinions, I do try to provide backup for my thoughts. And, I always try to be respectful – even when I’m being direct.

When I’m on the receiving end, I do address the situation. I never say, “Screw it,” and let it go, because that only exacerbates the situation. I will comment, once, perhaps twice, and then let it go.

Everyone’s views are valid if they’re presented in a logical manner and in polite tones, I think. Ignore them, and you discredit your credibility and also lose an opportunity to turn the situation around completely.

I also feel that it takes a big man to address someone critiquing him. It takes guts and a strong sense of worth. It doesn’t take much strength to run or ignore a situation. That’s why I feel it’s important to at least take a stab at responding politely.

I’m sorry to hear about your family issues and hope that everything turns out alright.

Criticism without backup is empty flaming. Criticism with backup is simply a difference in views.

When I take a stand on something or voice my opinions, I do try to provide backup for my thoughts. And, I always try to be respectful – even when I’m being direct.

When I’m on the receiving end, I do address the situation. I never say, “Screw it,” and let it go, because that only exacerbates the situation. I will comment, once, perhaps twice, and then let it go.

Everyone’s views are valid if they’re presented in a logical manner and in polite tones, I think. Ignore them, and you discredit your credibility and also lose an opportunity to turn the situation around completely.

I also feel that it takes a big man to address someone critiquing him. It takes guts and a strong sense of worth. It doesn’t take much strength to run or ignore a situation. That’s why I feel it’s important to at least take a stab at responding politely.

I’m sorry to hear about your family issues and hope that everything turns out alright.

And definitely it’s true that if you don’t have any enemies, then you’re not doing anything worthwhile.

And definitely it’s true that if you don’t have any enemies, then you’re not doing anything worthwhile.